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In this compelling episode of "Don't Be Caught Dead," host Catherine Ashton dives into a remarkable story of survival and resilience with Justine Phillips, a sudden cardiac arrest survivor and founder of Heart Matters Australia. Justine recounts her harrowing experience of being clinically dead for 93 minutes and how her heart miraculously restarted, thanks to the relentless efforts of her family and paramedics. This episode sheds light on the importance of CPR and defibrillation, and how these life-saving skills can make a difference between life and death.
Justine shares the emotional journey her family underwent during her cardiac arrest, especially the impact on her children and how they managed to perform CPR guided by emergency operators. She also discusses the difference between a heart attack and cardiac arrest, debunking common misconceptions and highlighting the need for increased awareness and education on these critical health issues. Through her organisation, Heart Matters Australia, Justine is dedicated to educating communities about effective CPR and defibrillator use, aiming to save more lives and reduce trauma in the wake of cardiac events.
The episode is a candid discussion about death, survival, and the profound changes that life-threatening experiences can bring. Justine's story is not only about her survival but also about her mission to empower others with the knowledge and skills needed to respond effectively in emergencies, ensuring more families can keep their loved ones alive until professional help arrives.
Remember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
Show notes
Guest Bio
Sudden Cardiac Arrest Survivor and Founder of Heart Matters Australia
In July 2020 in the midst of Covid and after re-entering lockdown in Melbourne for the second time Justine suffered a Sudden Cardiac Arrest while at home with her two young teenage children. Justine was found by her daughter who alerted her brother and CPR was performed for almost 8 minutes until Ambulance and Firefighters arrived.
Justine was a qualified Personal Trainer and Wellness Advocate at the time of her Arrest, the last person her friends, family, acquaintances and colleagues expected to suffer a Cardiac Arrest.
This event was instrumental in the trajectory of Justine’s life. She never imagined the long-term impact it would have on her and her children’s futures.
This experience has led Justine to develop a passion to share her story of survival in the hope of educating others on how important it is no matter your age or ethnicity we should all know how to perform CPR and the significance of having access to defibrillators and just how easy they are to operate.
Summary
Here are the key points from the discussion:
- Justine Phillips survived a sudden cardiac arrest and was clinically dead for 93 minutes.
- Her son performed effective CPR, guided by emergency services.
- Emphasizes the difference between heart attacks and cardiac arrests, and the importance of CPR and defibrillation.
- Founded Heart Matters Australia to promote CPR education and defibrillator accessibility.
- Experienced lifestyle changes and new priorities after the cardiac arrest.
- Utilized breathwork to recall and process her near-death experience (NDE).
- Advocates for open conversations about death and end-of-life planning.
Transcript
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I'd been defibrillated eight times.
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My heart had not returned
to a normal beating rhythm.
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So what they had to do is they
had to make a decision on whether
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or not they would continue care.
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They decided to keep working on me.
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And they made the call to ... Read More
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I'd been defibrillated eight times.
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My heart had not returned
to a normal beating rhythm.
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So what they had to do is they
had to make a decision on whether
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or not they would continue care.
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They decided to keep working on me.
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And they made the call to
the Frankston Hospital.
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When I arrived at the Frankston Hospital,
93 minutes later, from the time of
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birth, When they were transferring
me from the ambulance trolley to the
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hospital bed, my heart miraculously
just started beating by itself.
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Welcome to Don't Be Caught Dead, a
podcast encouraging open conversations
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about dying and the death of a loved one.
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I'm your host, Katherine Ashton, founder
of Critical Info, and I'm helping to
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bring your stories of death back to life.
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Because while you may not be ready
to die, at least you can be prepared.
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Don't Be Caught Dead acknowledges
the lands of the Kulin Nations
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and recognises their connection
to land, sea and community.
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We pay our respects to their Elders,
past, present and emerging, and extend
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that respect to all Aboriginal and
Torres Strait Islander and First
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Nation peoples around the globe.
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Today I'm
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I'm speaking with Justine Phillips,
the sudden cardiac arrest survivor and
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the founder of Heart Matters Australia.
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I'm really looking forward
to our conversation today.
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Welcome to the show, Justine.
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Hello.
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How are you?
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Good.
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Thank you.
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That's good.
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Now, I normally ask people a
question about their experience
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with death to open up the show.
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But I've never had the opportunity.
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To someone who died themselves
and let me explain this because
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as you explained on your website
for 93 minutes, you had continual
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CPR and you were clinically dead.
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Could you perhaps tell that story?
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Absolutely.
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So I guess, first of all, I'll
explain what sudden cardiac arrest is
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because there can be some confusion
around Sudden cardiac arrest.
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And sudden cardiac arrest is
when your heart stops beating.
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And when I say stops beating, the
heart stops pumping the blood around
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the body to the vital organs, which
essentially keeps us upright and alive.
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And what it does is your heart
is It's either stopped or
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else it's erratically beaten.
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So it's beating so fast that it actually
can't get any blood into the heart
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whatsoever to pump that around the body.
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So what happens in that instance is
a person then will suddenly collapse,
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become unconscious and unresponsive.
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And without CPR and defibrillation,
that person then will pass away.
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So there's a very short timeframe for.
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Someone to intervene, commence
CPR, and then that person's heart
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defibrillated to shock it back
into rhythm to keep them alive.
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So in my instance, I had my
cardiac arrest at home during
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the lockdown period back in July.
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2020.
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Now I'm a single parent, so I was
home with my children and they were
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actually homeschooling that day.
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So even though COVID was a terrible time,
for me, there's a lot of positives that
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came out of COVID that I'm here today.
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So we were home.
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It was my son's 16th birthday.
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My daughter was in the kitchen.
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She had decided that she wanted to make
him something for his birthday lunch.
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I had actually, at the time,
I was a personal trainer.
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So I had come down to my bedroom to
record a workout that I could do.
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Put up on my socials that if anyone wanted
to work out, they had some, an exercise
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or program that they could do that day.
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So I had come up here and my daughter
had this funny feeling when she was
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in the kitchen that she just needed to
run it past me what she should cook.
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her brother for lunch.
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And when she came down to my
bedroom, she found me on the
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floor, unresponsive, unconscious.
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Now my son was having a shower
at the time, so she alerted him.
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He quickly jumped out.
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Anyway, they both came into the
room and they called triple zero.
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My daughter at the time was just
so shocked from what had happened.
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The triple zero operators told
her to go out to the front of our
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driveway and wait for the ambulance
and they advised my son to start CPR.
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So my son had to start CPR and they
believed that was in a matter of
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minutes of me actually collapsing.
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So he had to perform CPR until the
ambulance officers arrived and they
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arrived approximately nearly eight
minutes after the ambulance arrived.
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The call was made.
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So the ambulance officers arrived
along with the local fire brigade.
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They came in, the firefighters took over
the CPR, and while the ambulance officers
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just started doing what they needed
to do to assess what had gone on, and
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Check vitals and all that sort of stuff.
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So once they arrived, they called the MICA
paramedic, which is the paramedics that
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come out that have had additional training
that provide intensive care treatment.
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They arrived.
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Within a 25 minute period, I'd
been defibrillated eight times.
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My heart had not returned
to a normal beating rhythm.
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So what they had to do is they
had to make a decision on whether
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or not they would continue care
or else if they would just stop.
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And that was it.
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And luckily for me, because
I was so young, I was 46
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when I had my cardiac arrest.
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I was young, I had children and I was fit.
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Cause as I mentioned earlier, I
was a personal trainer at the time.
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They decided to keep.
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Working on me, and they made the call
to the Frankston Hospital, and when
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I arrived at the Frankston Hospital,
93 minutes later, and the 93 minutes
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is from the time of call to arrival
at Frankston Hospital, when they were
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transferring me from the ambulance
trolley to the hospital bed, my heart
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just miraculously just started beating.
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beating by itself.
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Now what happened is once they had
made the decision to keep working on
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me, instead of having CPR performed
by an individual person, they decided
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to connect the mechanical CPR machine,
also known as the Lucas machine.
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So that actually takes
over the compressions.
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So it allows the paramedics to do what
they need to do without having someone
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having to focus on performing CPR.
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They've got a machine for that?
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Yes, they do.
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And it's, it's brutal,
but it's very effective.
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I've had the opportunity to actually
see one working on a mannequin and.
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It's actually when, when I stood
there watching it, I was just
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like, Oh my goodness, that is what
was pumping my chest at the time.
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And yeah, I don't know, it's brutal,
but when you watch it, it's, it's so
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effective and you know, it's performing
CPR at a depth that we need to be
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performing CPR, which then limits.
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the chances of a person having
brain damage because blood's
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not getting to the brain.
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So they're very beneficial.
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So once I had actually, my heart had
started beating, they then had to
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sedate me because I'd been intubated
at home before I was taken to hospital.
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I was biting on the intubation tube.
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So they had to sedate me.
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I was taken to what they call a cath
lab, which is where they run a whole
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hippocampus test on your heart.
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And it had shown that with my
particular heart, I had an enlarged
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left ventricle, which is also
known as Takotsubo cardiomyopathy.
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broken heart syndrome, which is caused
from physical and emotional stress.
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So I had Takotsubo cardiomyopathy.
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They then put me in an induced coma
and I was in there for four days.
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And I was once they took, cause they
weren't sure to start off with if
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I was going to survive the event.
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So for my family, because
it was during COVID.
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There was no one allowed
at the hospital at all.
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So, that was on the Wednesday.
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It wasn't until the Friday afternoon that
signs were looking good and they knew that
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I was going to be okay and survive it.
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But they didn't know whether or not
I would have any brain injuries,
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what my outcomes were going to be.
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So, once I came out of that, I was
in Franksville Hospital for a little
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bit, down on the Mornington Peninsula.
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And then I was transferred
to the Alfred Hospital.
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And there I had surgery and had what
they call an ICD implanted in me, which
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is an implantable cardio defibrillator.
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So what that is, it's the pacemaker
and a defibrillator all in one.
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So that just monitors my heart now,
moving forward, which is, Great to
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have, cause it's a little safety net,
but yeah, that is pretty much my story.
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There's so many questions that I have.
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Yeah.
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Firstly, I have to congratulate you
on remembering all the correct terms
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because they seem like a mouthful.
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Oh, look, there's a lot of them and some
of them I still get wrong every now and
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then cause yeah, as we know, medical
terminology can be a bit of a tongue
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twister and yeah, there's a lot of it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, I bet you there is.
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The first thing that comes to
mind from your story is you say
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that your daughter was in shock.
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So it was interesting that the
paramedics identified that, that were
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on the call and sent her out of the
situation to do, meeting the ambulance.
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And then obviously then identified
some particular skills or skills.
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Strengths that they found
in your son to be able to, I
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assume, did he know CPR at all?
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No, so he had never had any
CPR training through school
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or anything prior to my event.
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So the triple zero operator actually
guided him through what he needed to do.
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And the triple zero operator was obviously
fantastic with him because He, the CPR
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that he performed was effective CPR.
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It kept my blood pumping around my body
so that the only side effects I have.
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Since having the cardiac arrest is my
brain gets fatigued very easy, but after
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being down for 93 minutes, I'm told
that's going to, that's going to happen.
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I'm going to fatigue easy.
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The body gets tired easy.
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I can be talking and I can feel, I can,
I know what I want to say, but I can't
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sometimes think of the word that I'm
trying to get out and sometimes I can be
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talking and if I pause for too long, I can
actually forget what I was talking about.
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So, they're the only side effects.
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So, in that instance, I'm very lucky
that the CPR that I actually got was
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good quality effective CPR by my son,
guided by that triple zero operator.
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And from my understanding, CPR seems
to change if anyone has done CPR
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through work or anything like that.
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But it seems to be one thing
that is constantly being
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updated with new thoughts and.
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Guidelines.
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So is it my understanding correct
where it's the palpation on the
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chest to actually keep the blood
circulating, that is the the priority
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in CPR?
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Absolutely.
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So the best way I put it when I'm
talking to someone is that when you
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think your heart, and for us sitting
here right now is automatically just.
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Pumping blood around the body.
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We don't have to think about it.
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It just automatically does that.
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However, when our heart stops,
our heart can't can no longer
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pump blood around the body.
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So we need to become that
manual pump for the heart.
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So the big push is on
ensuring our compressions.
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Correct.
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In regards to the depth that we
require and the right that we require.
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So on an adult, for example, we want
to be aiming around five, four to
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five centimeters depth from the chest.
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So that way we're getting that,
those compression rates down.
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We're letting that heart,
we're pumping that heart.
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And then when we come up, we want to
make sure that we get the full rise
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of the chest and then compress again.
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Because what that does is that allows
the heart to refill with blood.
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And as we compress down, we're then
pumping that blood around the body.
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So yes, definitely the compression depth
is vital, as well as the rate, because
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if we're pumping, if we're doing our
compressions too slow, we're not pumping
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the heart fast enough to be able to push
that blood all the way around the body.
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if we're pumping, doing pumping also,
if we are doing our compressions too
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fast, we're not allowing the heart
to recoil to be able to fill up with
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blood to then push around the body.
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So yeah, definitely the
compressions are such a vital part.
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And five centimeters is
quite deep, isn't it?
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Absolutely.
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Absolutely.
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So, you know, you, I now, since I had the
cardiac arrest, I now actually teach CPR.
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I'm qualified to do that.
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And the biggest question that
comes up is, oh, but what happens
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if I, you know, break a rib?
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At the end of the day, if you break
a rib or, you know, you, there's some
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form of injury to a rib, it means
you're doing good compressions because
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we need to get that compression depth.
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Unfortunately, yes, that will happen to
that person, but What's the alternative
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if we don't perform CPR, that person
will pass away, unfortunately.
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So, yeah, there's always going to be a
nasty noise that you're going to hear.
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I know after mine, I was so sore for
a couple of months after it, but in
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saying that, that I was happy to put up
with that because I'm still here today.
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Yeah, of course.
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And what does the breath play in the role?
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Is that still part of the
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process or?
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So the Australian Resuscitation
Council guidelines, when you complete
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a CPR course, state that you must
do 30 compressions, 2 breaths.
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30 compressions, two breaths.
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Now that's the same whether
you are performing CPR on an
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infant, a child, or an adult.
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So yes, there's two breaths involved.
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However, if you go on a, you're out
on a walk and you stumble across
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someone who has collapsed, they're
unresponsive and you need to commence CPR.
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You might not be comfortable giving
the two breaths to a complete stranger.
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Which, I don't know if I would be if I, if
I had no idea what their background was.
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I'm not too sure.
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I would be keen on doing the
breaths on a complete stranger.
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So focusing on those compressions
becomes your priority.
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So yes, the breaths are also included, but
in today's world, unfortunately we can't,
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we don't know everyone's background.
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We don't know what their
illnesses are at the time.
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So.
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You might not want to do the breaths
and as long as you're doing the
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compressions, that's, as far as I'm
concerned, that's a, that's a priority.
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And just thinking about that also is the
like car accidents, things like that,
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that you may come across where people
might have blood or something like that.
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And that's why I know you're.
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First aid kit we bought last
year had the little thing
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that you can put over people's
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mouths.
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Yeah, so it's great.
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These days there's so many
variations on instruments that
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you can use in that situation.
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You've got masks, like a little mask
that you can put over the mouth.
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There's lots of little key rings
that you can get now that will have a
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little plastic sheet in there with a
mouthpiece there that you can blow into.
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So there's definitely items out You
can use and carry around with you,
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whether that's in a first aid kit.
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It's, you know, key ring
on your set of car keys.
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There are options there.
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And with that, I will add that
the breaths actually increase a
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person's chance of survival by 15%.
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So that's why those breaths, yeah.
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So yes, they are important, but
also we know that people don't
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like to do the actual breath.
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That's okay.
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Just as long as you can start compressions
and continue compressions to help rise.
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Or the person becomes responsive.
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And this is something,
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from what I understand from your
story, is we need to be aware of.
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Given the fact that you were 46, a
personal trainer, did you have any
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indication of family history?
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No, so I can look back now and I can
see that I did have some signs, and
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the signs that I had was there was
a little bit of shortness of breath.
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However, I put that down to that
I had asthma because when I get
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run down, I'd get asthma and I
have a bit of shortness of breath.
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So that's what I put it down to
because I was training excessively,
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going on long walks and everything.
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So I just put it down to having asthma
because I was tired and run down.
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I never ever thought it would
have been something to do with
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my heart and the cardiac arrest.
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And I guess that's the thing, an
important takeaway from this is that
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cardiac arrest can happen to anyone.
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At any age, at any time,
there are no guidelines when
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it comes to cardiac arrest.
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It does not discriminate at all.
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And I think that's probably been the
biggest wake up call for me because
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cardiac arrest, I thought that was
a heart attack, in all honesty.
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Cardiac arrest and heart
attack are so different.
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And the best way you can explain
the difference is with a heart
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attack, it's blockage of the artery.
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So it's like a plumbing issue.
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Whereas with a cardiac arrest.
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It's an electrical fault.
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Your heart is playing up.
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So that's how you
distinguish between the two.
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So, yeah, look, I was oblivious.
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I honestly thought, yeah, heart
attack, cardiac arrest is the same
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thing, but they're totally different.
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And with a heart attack, a person can
have a heart attack and their heart's
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still beating and they're still breathing,
whereas with a cardiac arrest, The person
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will collapse, they'll be unresponsive.
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So there's, there are very
important differences, but we
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just don't talk about it, so.
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And are they treated differently?
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Absolutely.
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So, you know, with a heart attack, as I
said, their hearts can still be beating.
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So that person, you just want to sit
still and wait for the ambulance to come.
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Whereas with cardiac arrest, that
person's heart's not beating.
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So we need to commence CPR.
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immediately to give them
any chance of survival.
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Well, I suppose the
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big difference from that is that
one will be conscious or possibly
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conscious and the other won't be.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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And the thing is someone can
also have a heart attack and then
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have a cardiac arrest as well.
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So, you know, when you look into it
medically, there's so many things.
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that can lead to a cardiac arrest.
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You know, it's not just maybe a
heart attack and cardiac arrest.
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As you said, it could
be from a car accident.
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It could be from a drowning, a
drug overdose, alcohol poisoning,
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like there's lots of things
that can cause cardiac arrest.
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But not heart attacks.
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Because that's a plumbing
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issue.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Absolutely.
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Yeah.
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I love the fact that it's a plumber,
you call for one problem, and an
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electrician, you call for another.
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Absolutely.
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That's a great way to look at
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it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, it is.
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Definitely.
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It's the best way to
explain it to someone.
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Yeah, that's really clever.
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And tell me, what are your memories
of that time when you had your
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cardiac arrest?
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I actually don't have any.
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I lost a month's worth of memory
around that period of time.
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So for me, it's interesting, I could
sit here and talk about cardiac arrest
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all day because I, I, because I, because
I can't remember anything, I don't
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have any emotional attachment to it.
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So it's very easy for me to talk about it.
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Whereas when you talk about my
children and the effects it's had on
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them, that's when I become emotional
because I see how it's affected them.
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And it's, it's.
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Not nice and to see the on effect the
on flow effects that it still has today,
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you know I think oh my goodness, like,
you know, that really breaks my heart
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that that's affected them as such But
yeah, I'd my first memories of after the
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cardiac arrest is the day I'm actually
leaving the hospital in the alpha when I
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was being discharged and I had my dad come
down from country Victoria to pick me up.
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I remember being in the
wheelchair and being wheeled out.
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They had to wheel me down to the entrance
of the hospital where he was allowed to
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come into the hospital to collect me,
but then we had to leave straight away.
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So that's my first memory
after the incident.
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However, in saying that, like I know
there were conversations that were had
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because I knew something had gone wrong.
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I couldn't remember what they
had said I'd had, but everyone
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was talking about cardiac arrest.
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So I would just go along with
conversations that, okay,
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it was a cardiac arrest.
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And even though I can't remember the
conversation of someone sitting down
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with me saying, this is what happened,
I know we had that conversation.
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And I know that we had the conversations
about going to the Alfred to have
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the, the ICD implanted in my chest.
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So yeah, it's, it's a really strange
period of time for me, that trying to
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remember around that time, it's just.
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Yeah, there's no memory.
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So it's really hard to explain.
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And it must be amplified by the
fact that you didn't have any family
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around you to hear those conversations
because it was during COVID.
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Yeah, exactly.
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So the way I would communicate with
people like we all did was via telephone.
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So it's interesting hearing the people
I was talking to, the conversations I
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was having with because a lot of them.
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Particularly early on after I came out
of the ICU, I was very bit agitated.
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My personality was different
to who I usually am.
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So it's quite interesting hearing
those sorts of conversations because
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it's like, Oh wow, that's so not me.
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But that was just due to the brain
injury at the time, the brain
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recovering from the episode I just had.
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So yeah, it's interesting.
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But it's good to know for people
listening that that is a normal process.
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Can happen.
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Yeah.
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Absolutely.
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The brain's been through the, not just
the brain, the whole body's been through
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a traumatic event and our brain will
block out information to protect us.
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Because you can't really remember
much about that time, certainly that.
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That month block, is it, when
you think about your children,
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that was one of the motivating
factors for starting Heart Matters?
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Absolutely.
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Cause I can see the trauma that,
you know, that they've been through.
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I've been through it with them in regards
to after it, like we'd have incidences
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and there'd only be little incidences or
little triggers that would set them off.
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And you know, so I can see
how this has affected them.
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And for me, it's just Heart Matters
Australia came around because.
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Lots of people that I spoke to
didn't know what cardiac arrest was.
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They thought heart attack cardiac
arrest was the same and didn't
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know how to treat cardiac arrest.
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And the most important thing we can do
is educate ourselves on how to perform
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CPR so that if we ever need to know,
or if we even need to provide CPR on
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someone, we all know what we need to do.
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Um, we're not flying in blind
and we're giving that person
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the best chance at life.
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But also I think, But if we can equip
ourselves with those skills, what
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it does is if that person makes it
fantastic, we did an amazing job.
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If that person doesn't make it,
that is a real shame, but we did
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the best we could with the skills
and the knowledge that we had.
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And I think that's important because
particularly if I look at it from a parent
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and a child, If I had a past, my kids
would have carried that guilt with them
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forever and a day, because they wouldn't
have known how to perform effective CPR,
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which, you know, that's not on them.
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That's on me as a parent to ensure
that they know that, but, you know,
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they're always going to be questioning.
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Oh, I should have done this.
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I should have done that.
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because they didn't have the training.
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Whereas if we can provide everyone
with the training, whether they are
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00:24:49,774 --> 00:24:54,784
children, whether they are adults, if we
can provide everyone with the training
438
00:24:54,784 --> 00:24:59,615
of performing good quality, effective
CPR, well then that person knows that
439
00:24:59,615 --> 00:25:03,254
they did the best they could with the
skills and the knowledge that they had.
440
00:25:03,734 --> 00:25:03,944
And
441
00:25:03,944 --> 00:25:08,904
tell me, what is Heart Matters
doing to, to increase the education?
442
00:25:09,529 --> 00:25:15,679
Yeah, so as I mentioned earlier
on, I can now officially teach CPR.
443
00:25:15,949 --> 00:25:18,509
So for me, my goals are
to go around and teach.
444
00:25:18,919 --> 00:25:23,040
As many people as I can, whether
they are community groups, sporting
445
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:28,370
groups, businesses, families,
friendship groups, is to teach
446
00:25:28,370 --> 00:25:30,509
everyone how to perform effective CPR.
447
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:33,959
And I say effective CPR because,
you know, we want to make sure
448
00:25:33,959 --> 00:25:36,469
we've got good compression
depth and good compression rate.
449
00:25:36,529 --> 00:25:39,439
And if we have that, that's effective CPR.
450
00:25:39,820 --> 00:25:45,969
So teaching everybody effective CPR and
also How to use defibrillators, because
451
00:25:45,979 --> 00:25:49,999
there's, you know, there's this thought
that defibrillators can only be used by
452
00:25:49,999 --> 00:25:54,320
people who are being trained and, you
know, no one wants to touch them because
453
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:56,379
they're not too sure how they work.
454
00:25:56,639 --> 00:26:01,339
So I want to take that stigma away that,
you know, only someone who's trained can
455
00:26:01,339 --> 00:26:04,429
use a defibrillator and, oh, we don't
touch those, they're scary, we're going
456
00:26:04,429 --> 00:26:07,409
to get a shock, all this sort of stuff.
457
00:26:07,469 --> 00:26:11,329
So anyone can use CPRs.
458
00:26:12,705 --> 00:26:17,125
And how to use a defibrillator,
but also raising funds to get
459
00:26:17,125 --> 00:26:19,065
defibrillators out into communities.
460
00:26:19,554 --> 00:26:22,985
And the defibrillators that we put
out in communities, that they're
461
00:26:22,985 --> 00:26:28,384
accessible 24 7, any time of the day,
any time of the week, for anyone,
462
00:26:28,384 --> 00:26:31,454
so that if anyone needs it, they can
just go and get the defibrillator.
463
00:26:32,990 --> 00:26:37,010
It's interesting to say that because
sometimes defibrillators are put
464
00:26:37,010 --> 00:26:43,349
in the most weirdest spots behind
locked doors and in public places.
465
00:26:43,459 --> 00:26:44,899
That's kind of useless, isn't it?
466
00:26:45,389 --> 00:26:46,199
Absolutely.
467
00:26:46,199 --> 00:26:49,519
Because if you can't get a
key to get into that door, the
468
00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,239
defibrillator is useless, so to speak.
469
00:26:52,289 --> 00:26:56,740
And, you know, as I've said, cardiac
arrest happens any time of the day,
470
00:26:57,370 --> 00:27:01,460
you know, so we can't just have them
available between nine and five because.
471
00:27:01,949 --> 00:27:05,370
That person might have a cardiac
arrest at 6pm at night and we don't
472
00:27:05,379 --> 00:27:06,820
have access to the defibrillator.
473
00:27:06,830 --> 00:27:10,289
Whereas, if we can get defibrillators
out in our communities where they're
474
00:27:10,289 --> 00:27:15,759
accessible 24 7 days a week, you
know, it provides a bit of security
475
00:27:15,759 --> 00:27:20,060
and comfort for that local community
knowing that if something was to happen,
476
00:27:20,510 --> 00:27:22,980
They know where that defibrillator
is and that they can use it.
477
00:27:23,350 --> 00:27:26,890
And from my memory,
they're almost idiot proof.
478
00:27:27,110 --> 00:27:28,120
Oh, absolutely.
479
00:27:28,550 --> 00:27:32,949
Because, like, you just pop
them on and then if the heart's
480
00:27:32,949 --> 00:27:34,349
fine, it doesn't do anything.
481
00:27:34,820 --> 00:27:35,590
Absolutely.
482
00:27:35,649 --> 00:27:39,979
All you do is you just press the on button
and then you listen to the instructions.
483
00:27:40,029 --> 00:27:43,620
They will tell you, they will
give you step by step instructions
484
00:27:43,639 --> 00:27:44,679
on what you need to do.
485
00:27:45,335 --> 00:27:48,255
So you turn the button on and
you just follow the instructions.
486
00:27:48,505 --> 00:27:53,065
And as you said, if the person's
got a heartbeat, they will not be
487
00:27:53,065 --> 00:27:55,135
delivered a shock by the defibrillator.
488
00:27:55,155 --> 00:27:59,625
It will only shock a person if their
heart is in a shockable rhythm.
489
00:28:00,084 --> 00:28:00,394
Yeah.
490
00:28:00,395 --> 00:28:04,255
And I'm like, it was just
like Siri telling me what to
491
00:28:04,255 --> 00:28:05,645
do and I'm like, yeah, okay.
492
00:28:06,115 --> 00:28:07,235
Yeah, absolutely.
493
00:28:07,475 --> 00:28:08,535
And the great thing is.
494
00:28:09,155 --> 00:28:12,905
You know, a lot of them will have
a tone, so, for the compression
495
00:28:12,905 --> 00:28:13,805
rate that you need to do.
496
00:28:13,835 --> 00:28:17,114
Because you put the, once the,
the fibrillator arrives, why
497
00:28:17,115 --> 00:28:18,865
a person's performing CPR.
498
00:28:19,255 --> 00:28:21,925
You have the other person put
the pads on, and it will tell you
499
00:28:21,925 --> 00:28:26,215
to stand clean while it runs its
analysis and does what it needs to do.
500
00:28:26,785 --> 00:28:32,145
But if a defibrillator needs to deliver
a shock, and it does, and then, say for
501
00:28:32,145 --> 00:28:35,905
example, it hasn't restarted their heart,
and you are required to commence CPR
502
00:28:35,905 --> 00:28:38,255
again, it will tell you to commence CPR.
503
00:28:38,285 --> 00:28:40,559
A lot of them will have a light.
504
00:28:41,110 --> 00:28:43,639
and or a beeping sound.
505
00:28:43,649 --> 00:28:45,379
So it gives you a compression rate.
506
00:28:45,870 --> 00:28:48,070
Yeah, I remember that
actually now you're saying it.
507
00:28:48,410 --> 00:28:48,870
Yeah.
508
00:28:49,060 --> 00:28:49,240
It,
509
00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:51,319
it had a beep, the one that I
510
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:51,530
was
511
00:28:51,530 --> 00:28:51,910
using.
512
00:28:52,310 --> 00:28:53,579
Yes, exactly.
513
00:28:53,579 --> 00:28:55,260
So it was really, really helpful.
514
00:28:55,899 --> 00:28:56,820
Absolutely.
515
00:28:56,829 --> 00:29:00,825
So, you know, yeah, we, we need to
get rid of that stigma that Yeah.
516
00:29:01,135 --> 00:29:04,075
Defibrillators are dangerous
to use and you should only use
517
00:29:04,075 --> 00:29:05,705
them if you've been trained.
518
00:29:05,754 --> 00:29:07,595
Definitely anyone can use them.
519
00:29:07,965 --> 00:29:10,104
They are so, they are very user friendly.
520
00:29:10,575 --> 00:29:11,365
And tell me,
521
00:29:11,995 --> 00:29:17,254
what sort of changes have you had in
your life since your cardiac arrest?
522
00:29:17,445 --> 00:29:17,644
Yeah.
523
00:29:17,644 --> 00:29:20,504
So for me, at the time I was a
personal trainer when I had the cardiac
524
00:29:20,644 --> 00:29:23,754
arrest, I've since stopped doing that.
525
00:29:24,074 --> 00:29:26,154
And that's a personal
reason, just because.
526
00:29:26,975 --> 00:29:31,344
If I can't train the way I would train
someone, I don't want to do that.
527
00:29:31,815 --> 00:29:34,405
I don't think that's fair that I
ask someone to do something that I
528
00:29:34,405 --> 00:29:38,445
can't necessarily do, even though
medically there's a reason why,
529
00:29:38,485 --> 00:29:40,765
it's just, that's just, just me.
530
00:29:41,235 --> 00:29:47,565
But yeah, I'm just more aware of
sort of environments I put myself in.
531
00:29:47,815 --> 00:29:51,355
I get very fatigued easier
if there's a lot of people.
532
00:29:51,830 --> 00:29:56,040
So I tend to, I will go, but I
just know that my time there will
533
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:59,980
be short because I just find it
too overwhelming, too fatiguing.
534
00:30:00,500 --> 00:30:02,050
And what else?
535
00:30:02,070 --> 00:30:03,939
Oh, yeah, there's lots of changes.
536
00:30:03,950 --> 00:30:08,210
Just physically I don't push
myself like I used to when it
537
00:30:08,210 --> 00:30:10,289
comes to training or exercise.
538
00:30:10,835 --> 00:30:13,605
I tend to steer clear of a
lot of high impact training.
539
00:30:13,605 --> 00:30:18,115
I just will, at the moment I'll just go
for walks and just do strength training.
540
00:30:18,115 --> 00:30:20,255
So for me that, that works well.
541
00:30:20,695 --> 00:30:25,205
Yeah I guess I just know that there's
just job opport like if I was to step back
542
00:30:25,205 --> 00:30:29,270
from Heart Matters Australia, I know that
there's Limited job opportunities that I
543
00:30:29,270 --> 00:30:32,790
would have, like, if it was something that
required me to stand up on my feet all
544
00:30:32,790 --> 00:30:35,840
day, I couldn't do that five days a week.
545
00:30:35,900 --> 00:30:40,190
Probably, actually, in all honesty, I,
in regards to the fatigue, I don't think
546
00:30:40,420 --> 00:30:45,399
I'd be able to hold down a full time job
because I, I find the mental capacity,
547
00:30:45,399 --> 00:30:48,180
particularly, to be really draining.
548
00:30:48,740 --> 00:30:52,660
So, I know that if I'm at home and I
spend a lot of time on the computer
549
00:30:52,660 --> 00:30:59,250
working, like once I shut that down,
it's like, okay, I'm, I'm done now.
550
00:30:59,300 --> 00:31:03,170
I will either have a nap or
else I just need to sit and just
551
00:31:03,179 --> 00:31:06,350
have, quiet time and not talk.
552
00:31:06,350 --> 00:31:10,090
And so there's a few things that,
yeah, that have really changed.
553
00:31:10,370 --> 00:31:12,140
It sounds like your pace
554
00:31:12,300 --> 00:31:13,340
has slowed down.
555
00:31:13,990 --> 00:31:15,600
Yeah, absolutely.
556
00:31:15,900 --> 00:31:17,940
But obviously you're still
very busy at the same time.
557
00:31:18,869 --> 00:31:19,219
Yes.
558
00:31:19,570 --> 00:31:19,880
Yeah.
559
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:22,659
But I'm busy doing the stuff
that I'm passionate about.
560
00:31:22,659 --> 00:31:27,520
I'm not busy, you know, out socializing
or doing things that don't fill my cup.
561
00:31:27,590 --> 00:31:31,760
It's all I'm doing I'm busy
with things that fill my cup.
562
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,450
And is that one of the big changes?
563
00:31:35,230 --> 00:31:36,030
Oh, absolutely.
564
00:31:36,030 --> 00:31:37,560
I used to be a yes person.
565
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:39,540
I was never a, oh no, look, sorry.
566
00:31:39,540 --> 00:31:41,389
I'm, I can't take that on right now.
567
00:31:41,390 --> 00:31:44,360
I was a yes person, a people pleaser.
568
00:31:44,540 --> 00:31:47,299
And now that's, yeah, that's changed.
569
00:31:47,790 --> 00:31:51,289
And have your priorities
changed along that line?
570
00:31:51,759 --> 00:31:55,749
Yeah, look, I don't, I certainly
don't sweat over the small stuff.
571
00:31:55,960 --> 00:32:00,659
I used to worry about everything, whereas
now I only worry about what I can control.
572
00:32:01,140 --> 00:32:03,350
I don't worry about
what's out of my control.
573
00:32:03,830 --> 00:32:07,920
And I surround myself with
people that I want to be around.
574
00:32:08,380 --> 00:32:11,960
And I do things that I want to do.
575
00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:16,840
I don't necessarily do things that I
know will make me feel uncomfortable.
576
00:32:17,199 --> 00:32:21,890
And I mean that in a sense that it's just
something that I will dislike completely.
577
00:32:22,090 --> 00:32:24,570
And it's, I'm not going to
get any value out of it.
578
00:32:24,580 --> 00:32:26,220
So has it made you,
579
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:31,260
you know, I feel like I'd be more
reckless in relation to whatever I said.
580
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:36,510
I'd just be quite, you know, open
about my thoughts and feelings.
581
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:39,590
Have you had something along that line?
582
00:32:40,180 --> 00:32:45,800
Yeah, look, I have a tendency to sit back
and observe, and that's just what I do.
583
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:46,930
I sit back and observe.
584
00:32:46,930 --> 00:32:50,170
Previously I might have
Automatically jumped.
585
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:53,900
Whereas now I sit back and observe
because I just think, is this worth
586
00:32:53,950 --> 00:33:00,689
me saying something and potentially
causing upset or an issue that I
587
00:33:00,689 --> 00:33:04,749
really don't want to involve myself
in or put any more energy into?
588
00:33:05,469 --> 00:33:10,255
So in that sense, Yeah, look, if I
get to a certain point and I think,
589
00:33:10,255 --> 00:33:14,245
no, this is continuing behavior, I'm
not having that, I will say something,
590
00:33:14,265 --> 00:33:18,645
but other times I will just assess,
is this really worth my energy?
591
00:33:18,704 --> 00:33:23,475
And if it's not, I just think, oh, you
go do you, or, you know, depending on
592
00:33:23,475 --> 00:33:27,635
what the situation is and where and who
it's with or whatever, I'll just remove
593
00:33:27,635 --> 00:33:29,639
myself from a situation and, you know.
594
00:33:30,010 --> 00:33:34,540
I either won't go back,
or, yeah, I just cut it.
595
00:33:35,110 --> 00:33:35,230
Yeah.
596
00:33:35,830 --> 00:33:36,650
I'm brutal.
597
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:38,200
So, no.
598
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:42,790
So, yeah, that's, that's where,
yeah, that's probably what I do.
599
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:50,380
And tell me any memories from when you
actually had that 93 minutes where you
600
00:33:51,150 --> 00:33:52,750
weren't reading?
601
00:33:53,020 --> 00:33:57,380
I guess the only memory I have, which
has come about through breathwork,
602
00:33:57,830 --> 00:34:02,780
I've often I had the thought, do
maybe I go see a hypnotherapist to
603
00:34:02,860 --> 00:34:05,090
try and take myself back to that time.
604
00:34:05,580 --> 00:34:08,839
I haven't ventured down that track,
however, I've done breath work.
605
00:34:09,070 --> 00:34:13,190
I've got a very good friend who
facilitates breath work sessions
606
00:34:13,220 --> 00:34:18,399
and done quite a few of his and
I did have one really profound.
607
00:34:19,905 --> 00:34:25,175
where I guess the best way to describe
it is for me, it feels like where I
608
00:34:25,175 --> 00:34:32,974
went when I was in that limbo period
of choosing to stay or go, so to speak.
609
00:34:33,204 --> 00:34:41,410
And it's a feeling of just being
in an Open area and it's nothing
610
00:34:41,930 --> 00:34:48,039
but love and light, and I know that
probably sounds very cliche, but I
611
00:34:48,090 --> 00:34:52,730
really don't know how to explain it
apart from using those two words.
612
00:34:52,740 --> 00:34:58,229
It was just, was so full of
love and just the lightness.
613
00:34:58,230 --> 00:35:03,480
It was like anything that was
heavy had been left behind.
614
00:35:04,225 --> 00:35:09,095
And it was just a beautiful,
peaceful, loving space.
615
00:35:09,115 --> 00:35:14,265
And I couldn't see, like,
there was a bright white light
616
00:35:14,265 --> 00:35:15,864
that was up above my head.
617
00:35:15,934 --> 00:35:20,945
I couldn't see anything, but I
could feel, so it was more like I
618
00:35:20,945 --> 00:35:23,534
knew that my loved ones were there.
619
00:35:23,875 --> 00:35:26,095
I couldn't see them, but I
could feel their presence.
620
00:35:26,575 --> 00:35:31,805
That's the only experience I've had
where I can remember anything, but
621
00:35:31,894 --> 00:35:38,400
after I had that, it was I had this
profound feeling of everything's okay.
622
00:35:38,610 --> 00:35:43,710
Like, before I'd had that experience,
there was lots, I had a lot of questions
623
00:35:43,740 --> 00:35:51,890
myself, but after that experience, it was,
I'm okay, and I know where I'm going when
624
00:35:51,890 --> 00:36:00,930
I end up there, that it's going to be okay
because it's just, it was peaceful and
625
00:36:00,930 --> 00:36:04,060
beautiful, like it was really beautiful.
626
00:36:04,060 --> 00:36:06,760
It's probably the only
way I can describe it.
627
00:36:07,310 --> 00:36:08,100
Wow, that's
628
00:36:08,750 --> 00:36:09,950
absolutely amazing.
629
00:36:10,420 --> 00:36:16,770
And I wouldn't say it's cliché, obviously
there's something in that because the
630
00:36:16,770 --> 00:36:20,089
stories throughout time are very similar.
631
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:20,980
Yeah.
632
00:36:21,079 --> 00:36:25,090
But that's amazing that you feel that way.
633
00:36:25,499 --> 00:36:26,640
Oh, absolutely.
634
00:36:26,750 --> 00:36:29,390
And I haven't really had a
lot of conversations with
635
00:36:29,390 --> 00:36:31,310
people about this experience.
636
00:36:31,310 --> 00:36:31,740
I have.
637
00:36:31,740 --> 00:36:31,860
Yeah.
638
00:36:31,860 --> 00:36:31,870
Yeah.
639
00:36:31,870 --> 00:36:31,879
Yeah.
640
00:36:32,060 --> 00:36:35,740
a handful of people because,
you know, I know people be
641
00:36:35,740 --> 00:36:37,210
out there like, yeah, right.
642
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:38,570
She's making that up.
643
00:36:38,620 --> 00:36:43,710
But it's just, yeah, it's
honestly, I can't explain it.
644
00:36:43,770 --> 00:36:50,080
It's just, it's taken that, you know,
that fear of death away from me.
645
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:54,480
Like I no longer have that because I know
that where I'm going, it's beautiful.
646
00:36:54,530 --> 00:36:59,350
And yeah, and I say cliche because I
guess, you know, I guess what, before
647
00:36:59,350 --> 00:37:01,000
I had my experience, I was always.
648
00:37:01,825 --> 00:37:05,055
wondering what there was and you know,
you hear people say, Oh, it's, you know,
649
00:37:05,675 --> 00:37:07,245
love and light and that sort of stuff.
650
00:37:07,245 --> 00:37:08,965
I'm like, Oh, everyone always uses that.
651
00:37:09,545 --> 00:37:15,125
And I never really understood, but
that's, yeah, it's just, that's the way
652
00:37:15,174 --> 00:37:18,775
that I can describe it really to, yeah.
653
00:37:19,265 --> 00:37:20,355
Love and light.
654
00:37:21,355 --> 00:37:24,515
What a beautiful thing to
think that that's what's there.
655
00:37:24,895 --> 00:37:25,825
Absolutely.
656
00:37:26,015 --> 00:37:26,695
Absolutely.
657
00:37:26,705 --> 00:37:29,225
And I know people said they
have the experience where they
658
00:37:29,235 --> 00:37:31,190
visualize They're loved ones.
659
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:35,970
I never had that, but I had the feeling,
the feeling of love and, you know, which
660
00:37:35,970 --> 00:37:41,339
I think for me would be more beneficial
than having the visual, like seeing them,
661
00:37:41,339 --> 00:37:46,230
like actually feeling their love was
what I needed when I had that experience.
662
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:51,900
And isn't it interesting it appeared
to you in a manner that you needed it?
663
00:37:52,580 --> 00:37:54,110
Yeah, absolutely.
664
00:37:54,340 --> 00:37:55,250
Absolutely.
665
00:37:55,580 --> 00:37:57,710
And I guess also is that.
666
00:37:58,495 --> 00:38:02,195
when I've had that experience, the
memory of the experience, it's been
667
00:38:02,195 --> 00:38:05,755
a time that I've also been ready
for that experience to remember that
668
00:38:05,755 --> 00:38:09,835
particular moment when I was in limbo.
669
00:38:10,565 --> 00:38:11,225
Yeah.
670
00:38:11,474 --> 00:38:13,165
As to do I stay, do I go?
671
00:38:13,545 --> 00:38:14,494
And I'm very fortunate.
672
00:38:14,545 --> 00:38:20,295
I've got two friends who are very
intuitive and they don't know each other
673
00:38:20,295 --> 00:38:25,175
and I've had separate conversations
with them and they have both said to
674
00:38:25,175 --> 00:38:28,275
me that, you know, where you went.
675
00:38:28,510 --> 00:38:32,610
You were quite happy and neither
of them knew if I would come back.
676
00:38:33,030 --> 00:38:36,830
One in particular, she was channeling
in and she just said that she did
677
00:38:36,830 --> 00:38:38,949
not know which way I was going to go.
678
00:38:39,370 --> 00:38:43,089
And so yeah, so I find it very interesting
that these two individuals who are on
679
00:38:43,340 --> 00:38:48,720
separate sides of Australia have both
had similar feelings about and the
680
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:52,980
feeling that not knowing what I was
going to do and that I was conflicted.
681
00:38:52,980 --> 00:38:55,120
So I found that rather fascinating.
682
00:38:55,610 --> 00:38:59,050
And when you, remember that experience.
683
00:38:59,130 --> 00:39:02,900
Is it a memory that you,
you have, do you think?
684
00:39:02,910 --> 00:39:04,670
Is that the right thing to call it?
685
00:39:04,970 --> 00:39:13,529
I honestly, I, it's, it's obviously a
memory that I've had to work, do a bit of
686
00:39:13,530 --> 00:39:16,140
work with for it to actually come forward.
687
00:39:16,430 --> 00:39:22,085
Cause For me, that came forward in a
breathwork session, so it's obviously one
688
00:39:22,085 --> 00:39:25,505
of the memories that have been suppressed
throughout that one month period of
689
00:39:25,535 --> 00:39:28,815
losing memory from that period of time
around the event of the cardiac arrest.
690
00:39:28,815 --> 00:39:32,805
So I guess, I guess it's a memory
that's ingrained, but it's just
691
00:39:32,805 --> 00:39:36,744
something that for me that had to
be released through a particular.
692
00:39:37,255 --> 00:39:37,835
Practice.
693
00:39:37,855 --> 00:39:38,275
Yeah.
694
00:39:38,835 --> 00:39:39,125
And
695
00:39:39,445 --> 00:39:44,185
when you recall that memory,
do you feel that there was a
696
00:39:44,185 --> 00:39:45,685
choice that you were there?
697
00:39:46,205 --> 00:39:48,855
You had to be pulled one
way or another as you were
698
00:39:49,585 --> 00:39:51,445
talking about what your
friends were saying?
699
00:39:51,604 --> 00:39:53,535
With that particular memory
that we just spoke about?
700
00:39:53,565 --> 00:39:57,425
No, but I've had another experience
in a breathwork session that
701
00:39:57,425 --> 00:40:00,775
I'd done earlier to that one.
702
00:40:00,865 --> 00:40:05,950
And I have a memory of it was like,
The only way I can describe it,
703
00:40:05,950 --> 00:40:10,130
it was like, I was on one side of
the door, and there was an open
704
00:40:10,140 --> 00:40:12,480
door, and I had to make a decision.
705
00:40:13,270 --> 00:40:17,939
Do I go through that door and see the
people that I've lost, that I miss dearly,
706
00:40:18,350 --> 00:40:21,610
or do I stay over this side of the door?
707
00:40:21,980 --> 00:40:23,150
And go back to my children.
708
00:40:23,150 --> 00:40:28,400
So I have had a breathwork session where
I have had a moment where I've felt like
709
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:33,440
I needed to make a decision and that one
I found a really traumatic experience
710
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:39,299
like I was sobbing throughout that and
I was sobbing after that experience.
711
00:40:39,590 --> 00:40:45,610
Because it felt so heavy
and raw and heartbreaking.
712
00:40:45,980 --> 00:40:49,120
Like that was a really heartbreaking
session that particular one.
713
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:52,259
But yeah, so I have had a separate
experience to the previous
714
00:40:52,259 --> 00:40:55,089
one in regards to whether or
not I had to make a decision.
715
00:40:55,110 --> 00:40:56,929
And that was that breathwork session.
716
00:40:56,930 --> 00:41:01,810
So I would assume That why I was,
that, you know, I've got that memory
717
00:41:01,810 --> 00:41:03,350
that I've had to make that decision.
718
00:41:03,430 --> 00:41:04,360
I just don't have that
719
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:05,980
clear of it,
720
00:41:06,270 --> 00:41:07,220
so to speak.
721
00:41:07,540 --> 00:41:12,380
It's interesting though, because they,
you know, Vessel van der Kolk talks about
722
00:41:12,410 --> 00:41:15,829
in his book how the body keeps a score.
723
00:41:16,430 --> 00:41:21,970
And the fact that you had that
memory and then you had a physical
724
00:41:21,980 --> 00:41:25,300
response to it is quite interesting.
725
00:41:25,300 --> 00:41:25,519
Yes.
726
00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:25,870
Yes.
727
00:41:26,175 --> 00:41:26,585
Yeah.
728
00:41:27,045 --> 00:41:27,645
Absolutely.
729
00:41:28,025 --> 00:41:30,415
And those two experiences
were totally different.
730
00:41:30,535 --> 00:41:32,755
As I was saying, the one where
I had to make the choice, like.
731
00:41:33,780 --> 00:41:38,120
That was so physically draining, even
just talking about it now, it just,
732
00:41:39,180 --> 00:41:42,600
like, I feel really heavy at the
moment and it just, I could sit here
733
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:46,190
and cry because it was just so heavy.
734
00:41:46,190 --> 00:41:51,590
Whereas when I think of the, when I was
up there and I had, there was that light
735
00:41:51,649 --> 00:41:56,010
and I could feel the love, like, that
just brings me immense joy, whereas, but
736
00:41:56,010 --> 00:41:58,120
yeah, two totally different experiences.
737
00:41:58,120 --> 00:41:59,479
And I came out of that one.
738
00:41:59,980 --> 00:42:04,660
Where I was up there and I felt the
presence of my loved ones, I, I was really
739
00:42:04,660 --> 00:42:07,700
calm and relaxed and I was at peace.
740
00:42:08,619 --> 00:42:12,040
The previous one, yeah,
that was terrible, to be
741
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:12,360
honest.
742
00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:17,489
It sounds like a decision that no
one should really have to make.
743
00:42:18,069 --> 00:42:18,369
Yeah.
744
00:42:18,369 --> 00:42:19,480
That's very, very difficult.
745
00:42:20,495 --> 00:42:20,795
Yeah.
746
00:42:20,845 --> 00:42:21,705
Absolutely.
747
00:42:21,855 --> 00:42:27,765
And tell me, how has your experience
informed, you know, you've
748
00:42:27,785 --> 00:42:31,205
mentioned that, that you're not
scared about death any longer.
749
00:42:31,725 --> 00:42:37,135
What other things have you, has it
made you put planning in place or?
750
00:42:37,654 --> 00:42:37,954
Yeah,
751
00:42:37,955 --> 00:42:42,775
I have, I've spoken about what I
would like, not in full detail,
752
00:42:42,785 --> 00:42:46,005
which I probably need to write that
down if I'm honest with myself.
753
00:42:46,085 --> 00:42:48,875
I've definitely had conversations
about, this is what I like.
754
00:42:49,815 --> 00:42:53,135
I've made sure that my will
is all finalized in regards to
755
00:42:53,145 --> 00:42:54,945
assets and all that sort of stuff.
756
00:42:54,945 --> 00:42:58,874
So that's all, all finalized because
I did need to make some changes
757
00:42:58,874 --> 00:43:00,975
to that and that's all been done.
758
00:43:01,525 --> 00:43:08,275
But for me, it's mainly just the, the
thought and the discussion around, okay,
759
00:43:08,275 --> 00:43:10,184
that if I get sick, this is what I want.
760
00:43:10,225 --> 00:43:13,685
And, you know, I don't want it to go
past this point or, you know, this
761
00:43:13,685 --> 00:43:17,665
is what I want for the funeral and
I don't want this or I do want that.
762
00:43:17,695 --> 00:43:19,065
So it's just making sure
that everyone knows.
763
00:43:19,895 --> 00:43:20,905
I don't want this.
764
00:43:20,955 --> 00:43:22,035
This is what I do want.
765
00:43:22,065 --> 00:43:28,354
And yeah, and I think that is so important
and something that we should all think
766
00:43:28,354 --> 00:43:33,315
about, not just when we're older, but when
we're younger as well, just letting people
767
00:43:33,324 --> 00:43:36,785
know what we want and what we don't want.
768
00:43:36,915 --> 00:43:39,635
Just voice, like we don't necessarily
have to have it written down as
769
00:43:39,635 --> 00:43:42,645
long as we voiced it to those who
are closest and dearest to us.
770
00:43:43,230 --> 00:43:46,440
So they are aware, I
think is very important.
771
00:43:46,930 --> 00:43:50,670
And your son is in his 20s now?
772
00:43:51,090 --> 00:43:55,970
He's 20 on Monday, so it makes,
that comes around to four years on
773
00:43:55,970 --> 00:43:58,500
Monday since the event happened.
774
00:43:58,759 --> 00:43:59,219
Yeah.
775
00:43:59,770 --> 00:44:03,300
How are you feeling about that milestone?
776
00:44:03,580 --> 00:44:06,640
Because I don't remember it,
I don't, it doesn't bother me.
777
00:44:06,670 --> 00:44:12,829
It's just more that, because it's my son's
birthday, it more, because he doesn't
778
00:44:12,829 --> 00:44:15,910
like to celebrate his birthdays anymore,
so we don't do the birthday cakes.
779
00:44:15,949 --> 00:44:20,050
I was trying to focus more on
him, And also my daughter, just
780
00:44:20,050 --> 00:44:21,430
to ensure that they're okay.
781
00:44:22,150 --> 00:44:25,410
I don't make a big fuss
about it with them.
782
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:27,610
If they want to talk about
it, we talk about it.
783
00:44:28,110 --> 00:44:30,020
But yeah, I don't know.
784
00:44:30,020 --> 00:44:33,570
It's, it's, it's, and I guess
internally, and I've got friends
785
00:44:33,570 --> 00:44:36,899
and stuff that are very happy and
everything, but I just, I try not to
786
00:44:36,899 --> 00:44:39,734
make too much of a big deal about it.
787
00:44:40,155 --> 00:44:45,615
In front of them, because I know how
traumatic that day was and, you know, my
788
00:44:45,615 --> 00:44:49,275
daughter's a lot more accepting of what
happened and will speak about the event,
789
00:44:49,275 --> 00:44:52,595
whereas my son's still very closed off
and it's not something that he wants
790
00:44:52,595 --> 00:44:55,755
to discuss openly, which I get that.
791
00:44:55,975 --> 00:44:59,135
And as we know, men process
differently to women.
792
00:44:59,165 --> 00:45:01,295
So, yeah, but no, I don't know.
793
00:45:01,295 --> 00:45:03,345
It's just, it's, yeah, it's exciting.
794
00:45:03,345 --> 00:45:07,114
And I am involved in some cardiac
arrest groups and so forth.
795
00:45:07,114 --> 00:45:08,585
And, you know, we chat in there.
796
00:45:08,614 --> 00:45:09,565
So I guess.
797
00:45:10,330 --> 00:45:14,330
I actually talked to other cardiac arrest
survivors about these milestones because
798
00:45:14,340 --> 00:45:18,370
they understand and, you know, we all
understand that our families, it's very
799
00:45:18,380 --> 00:45:22,729
hard for them to celebrate these moments.
800
00:45:23,350 --> 00:45:26,110
Not everyone has difficulty
celebrating the moment, those
801
00:45:26,110 --> 00:45:29,400
particular, these particular days,
but I'm finding out a lot of people.
802
00:45:30,040 --> 00:45:33,960
And loved ones and, and friends of
those who have suffered a cardiac
803
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:35,690
arrest, they do struggle with it.
804
00:45:35,700 --> 00:45:36,000
So,
805
00:45:36,570 --> 00:45:37,030
yeah.
806
00:45:37,380 --> 00:45:42,270
I remember seeing an interview recently
and I think we mentioned it when
807
00:45:42,310 --> 00:45:44,580
we initially met a few weeks ago.
808
00:45:45,049 --> 00:45:49,349
And that was Greg Page,
the former Yellow Wiggle.
809
00:45:49,900 --> 00:45:57,785
And we, When he had his cardiac arrest and
he was on SBS Insight and he was talking
810
00:45:57,795 --> 00:46:06,994
about how he also has no memory of that
period and his wife has all the memories
811
00:46:07,075 --> 00:46:15,235
of that period and she You know, obviously
is very similar, the story about the
812
00:46:15,235 --> 00:46:18,115
impact that that has on loved ones around.
813
00:46:19,215 --> 00:46:19,865
Absolutely.
814
00:46:19,925 --> 00:46:24,925
And tell me you're now, you know,
really made your purpose of your life
815
00:46:25,215 --> 00:46:31,154
to educate people about what's the
plumbing and what's the electrician,
816
00:46:31,514 --> 00:46:33,235
which is, I think is fantastic.
817
00:46:33,895 --> 00:46:37,065
How do your, your friends
and family feel about that?
818
00:46:37,065 --> 00:46:37,199
Absolutely.
819
00:46:37,490 --> 00:46:40,640
No, everyone, everyone's really
pleased and, and, and happy
820
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:41,780
that I'm, I'm doing that.
821
00:46:41,780 --> 00:46:47,890
Cause I guess I can see the fire
in my belly of what excites me in
822
00:46:47,890 --> 00:46:54,299
regards to, you know, just educating
people on this and helping save lives.
823
00:46:54,300 --> 00:46:55,719
Cause at the end of the day,
that's what I want to do.
824
00:46:55,720 --> 00:47:00,039
I just want, want to save a person's
loved ones so that they get to spend
825
00:47:00,039 --> 00:47:02,239
more quality time with each other.
826
00:47:02,550 --> 00:47:06,419
And so they were all very
supportive and very, yeah.
827
00:47:07,195 --> 00:47:10,235
If I need anything, they're always
there on the end of the phone or in
828
00:47:10,235 --> 00:47:13,385
person if I need to run something
by them, they're like, yeah, great
829
00:47:13,385 --> 00:47:15,385
idea, or maybe, oh, what about this?
830
00:47:15,385 --> 00:47:19,285
And, you know, so they're great
for bouncing ideas off and always,
831
00:47:19,425 --> 00:47:20,665
they've always got my back.
832
00:47:21,015 --> 00:47:23,244
And your kids, how do they
833
00:47:23,690 --> 00:47:29,050
My son's very much doesn't want to know a
lot about, he knows what I do and stuff,
834
00:47:29,050 --> 00:47:32,520
but he's not really big on the details.
835
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:34,249
Whereas my daughter's very open about it.
836
00:47:34,259 --> 00:47:34,810
She's good.
837
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:39,160
She always throws an idea here
and there every now and then, and
838
00:47:39,240 --> 00:47:44,050
apparently I need to get on TikTok,
which, um, I'll just steer clear of
839
00:47:44,050 --> 00:47:46,340
that, but you know, they're good.
840
00:47:47,020 --> 00:47:49,550
My daughter particularly is more
supportive than my son, but I
841
00:47:49,550 --> 00:47:51,760
totally understand why with my son.
842
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:53,400
Cause he did experience.
843
00:47:53,485 --> 00:47:59,765
It's a lot more of the, you know,
the visual and the physical trauma
844
00:47:59,765 --> 00:48:02,985
that he had to go through with
seeing what I was going through.
845
00:48:04,380 --> 00:48:08,020
And tell me, what's the
future for Heart Matters?
846
00:48:08,610 --> 00:48:14,830
Well, the future is that I would
like to just keep educating on CPR.
847
00:48:15,260 --> 00:48:18,340
I'd love to get into schools,
particularly secondary schools, and
848
00:48:18,340 --> 00:48:24,750
just, you know, I think CPR is something
that our politicians need to look
849
00:48:24,750 --> 00:48:26,620
at, maybe putting on the curriculum.
850
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:30,550
Um, so I think that's a very
important life skill that You know,
851
00:48:30,610 --> 00:48:33,730
that we should have from a very
early age, the younger we learn it.
852
00:48:33,730 --> 00:48:39,710
And if we keep continuing that, you know,
with the updating the upgrades of any new
853
00:48:39,710 --> 00:48:43,730
information that comes to light with CPR,
if we can keep that going off for our
854
00:48:43,730 --> 00:48:45,770
young ones, it just becomes second nature.
855
00:48:45,770 --> 00:48:49,210
So by the time we hit adulthood,
by the time the kids hit
856
00:48:49,250 --> 00:48:50,790
adulthood, it's going to be cool.
857
00:48:51,925 --> 00:48:54,335
like riding a bike to them,
which is what we need.
858
00:48:54,415 --> 00:48:58,345
And certainly for me, it's just,
yeah, that's what it's about for Heart
859
00:48:58,355 --> 00:49:01,035
Matters is getting out there and getting
defibrillators out in communities.
860
00:49:01,525 --> 00:49:05,475
That's a big passion for me is to
get as many defibrillators out as we
861
00:49:05,475 --> 00:49:10,005
can, you know, and the cost, there's
a cost involved with doing that.
862
00:49:10,014 --> 00:49:14,525
So I guess at some point I would
really love to have Heart Matters
863
00:49:14,555 --> 00:49:18,465
Australia with the training side of
things, and then maybe a Heart Matters
864
00:49:18,795 --> 00:49:20,884
foundation so that, you know, we can.
865
00:49:21,435 --> 00:49:23,945
have money coming in and then
putting that money straight back
866
00:49:23,945 --> 00:49:27,565
out into communities in the form of
a defibrillator that's accessible.
867
00:49:27,575 --> 00:49:34,064
So yeah, that's what I want to do and
just some public speaking to sort of raise
868
00:49:34,065 --> 00:49:36,445
your awareness of what cardiac arrest is.
869
00:49:36,645 --> 00:49:38,524
And what, how could people support
870
00:49:38,554 --> 00:49:38,824
you
871
00:49:39,154 --> 00:49:40,275
and the future
872
00:49:40,275 --> 00:49:40,614
of Heart
873
00:49:40,624 --> 00:49:40,984
Matters
874
00:49:41,074 --> 00:49:41,664
Australia?
875
00:49:41,804 --> 00:49:45,355
The way they can support
me is just by learning CPR.
876
00:49:45,495 --> 00:49:49,950
Book a course, I teach
first aid, Teach CPR.
877
00:49:49,960 --> 00:49:52,920
We also teach first aid in an
education and care setting.
878
00:49:53,350 --> 00:49:56,580
So there's a variety of courses
there that cover everyone.
879
00:49:56,630 --> 00:50:01,330
I do a CPR and AED awareness session,
which if people don't want that formal
880
00:50:01,330 --> 00:50:06,030
qualification, it's an hour and a
half session where I can come to your
881
00:50:06,040 --> 00:50:10,199
home, your business, and I'll teach
you how to perform effective CPR.
882
00:50:10,500 --> 00:50:14,890
And you also have the opportunity
to sit down and have a play with the
883
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:19,070
defibrillator, put the pads on the
mannequins and, you know, just follow
884
00:50:19,150 --> 00:50:23,049
the prompts, see how it works so
that we take that fear out of people.
885
00:50:23,260 --> 00:50:24,510
using a defibrillator.
886
00:50:24,530 --> 00:50:33,180
So to support is to learn CPR, book a
course, and if you want to help with
887
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:37,669
getting defibrillators out in communities,
I have a donation tab on my page.
888
00:50:37,670 --> 00:50:42,620
You can donate five dollars, two dollars,
ten dollars, a couple of hundred dollars
889
00:50:42,620 --> 00:50:47,955
if you like, and that money goes straight
towards Purchasing a defibrillator that
890
00:50:47,955 --> 00:50:50,305
will be donated to a local community.
891
00:50:50,505 --> 00:50:55,275
Well Justine, we'll certainly make sure
that we have all of that information in
892
00:50:55,275 --> 00:51:01,454
the show notes and certainly encourage
people to donate and you know, get
893
00:51:01,454 --> 00:51:06,344
behind the training in their places
of employment and also education.
894
00:51:07,204 --> 00:51:11,544
And I just really thank you
for being honest and open and
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sharing your story with us today.
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It's been really insightful.
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Thank you so much.
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No, thank you for having me.
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And for me, the biggest thing I can do
is share my story, which helps raise
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awareness on cardiac arrest, but also
the importance of knowing how to perform
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CPR, particularly for our children.
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If we can help them provide them with
a life skill so that if they ever do
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find themselves in a situation where
they're home alone with a parent, a
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grandparent, an aunt, that if anything
does happen to them, We've provided
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them with the knowledge and the skills
of what they need to do so that if
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anything happens, they can just go and
do it and hopefully that person is okay.
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And we can reduce the trauma
that they're going to experience.
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And I guess that's probably the biggest
thing for me is reducing people's
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trauma in these sorts of events.
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It's not going to eliminate the trauma,
it's just going to reduce the trauma.
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the trauma.
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And
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you sharing your story is so
powerful and a beautiful way
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in which you could do that.
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Thank you so much.
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No, thank you for having me.
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It's been a pleasure.
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Thanks Justy.
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