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This Is What Dignity Looks Like: A Daughter’s Story in Support of Voluntary Assisted Dying

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22nd May 2025

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About this episode

"My Mum went on her terms and I supported her all the way."

What happens when a loved one faces a terminal illness? How do we navigate the heart-wrenching decisions that come with it? In this episode, Barb Gearing shares her powerful story of love, loss, and the importance of choice at the end of life.

In this heartfelt episode of Don't Be Caught Dead, I sit down with Barb Gering, who shares her deeply personal journey as she navigated her mother's cancer diagnosis and the complexities of voluntary assisted dying. Barb's story is a powerful reminder of the importance of choice and dignity at the end of life. She reflects on the emotional rollercoaster of treatment, the candid conversations with her mother, and the profound impact of having the option to choose how and when to say goodbye.

Barb's experience highlights the brutal reality of cancer and the often-harrowing decisions families face when a loved one is diagnosed with a terminal illness. She candidly discusses the challenges of treatment, the emotional toll it takes, and the conversations that led her mother to consider voluntary assisted dying. With compassion and clarity, Barb shares how her family approached this sensitive topic, ensuring that her mother's wishes were respected and honoured. This episode is not just about death; it's about living fully until the very end and reclaiming control over one's own narrative.

Join us as we explore the nuances of grief, the importance of open conversations about dying, and the empowerment that comes from making informed choices. Barb's story is a testament to the strength of love and the courage it takes to advocate for what is best for our loved ones, even in their final moments.

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Catherine

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Guest Bio
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Barb Gering

Mum, Dad, my husband and me (taken at the end of January, 2024...a mere month before Mum left us).

Born in Europe and raised as an only child, Barb moved with her parents to Australia in the early 1980s, where she has built a fulfilling life rooted in community, compassion, and resilience. She is happily married and works casually at a psychology clinic in Sydney’s eastern suburbs, where she finds meaning in supporting mental health and well-being.

Outside of work, Barb leads an active lifestyle and finds joy in dancing, going to the gym, volunteering, travelling, reading, listening to music, spending time with friends, and sharing good meals. Her deep sense of care and commitment became especially evident in early 2023 when her mother was diagnosed with cancer. During this time, she stepped away from work to become her mother's primary advocate and part-time carer, navigating the complex and emotional landscape of treatment decisions.

Although the treatments did not bring the hoped-for outcomes, the experience profoundly shaped her perspective. It inspired her growing passion for education and advocacy around voluntary assisted dying, a cause she now champions with heartfelt belief in the importance of choice and dignity at the end of life.

Summary

Key points from our discussion:

  • The importance of open conversations about death and dying within families.
  • Understanding voluntary assisted dying and the criteria involved.
  • The emotional complexities of navigating a loved one's terminal illness.
  • How to advocate for a loved one's wishes in the face of difficult decisions.
  • The duality of grief when a loved one chooses voluntary assisted dying.

Transcript

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She asked me, she said, when do you
think you'll be ready to let me go?

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And I said.

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Mom, this isn't about me.

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I'm never gonna be ready to let you go.

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You're my mom.

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00:00:12,675 --> 00:00:13,815
You're my only mom.

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This is about ... Read More

Resources

 

  • Go Gentle Australia promotes choice at the end of life, including the option of voluntary assisted dying.

 

  • Dying With Dignity Victoria (DWDV)
    Website: https://www.dwdv.org.au
    Provides education, support, and advocacy for voluntary assisted dying and end-of-life planning in Victoria.

 

  • Dying with Dignity NSW (DWDNSW)
    Website: https://www.dwdnsw.org.au
    Focuses on legal reform, public education, and support for those navigating VAD in NSW.

 

  • Dying with Dignity Queensland (DWDQ)
    Website: https://www.dwdq.org.au
    Advocates for VAD access, provides resources for advance care planning, and engages with the Queensland community.

 

  • Dying with Dignity WA (DWDWA)
    Website: https://www.dwdwa.org.au
    Offers guidance on accessing VAD and advocates for continued improvement of end-of-life options.

 

  • Dying with Dignity Tasmania (DWDTas)
    Website: https://www.dwdtas.org.au
    Supports Tasmanians with information on voluntary assisted dying and other end-of-life choices.

 

  • Voluntary Assisted Dying South Australia (VADSA)
    Website: https://www.vadsa.org.au
    Previously known as Dying with Dignity SA, this organisation provides support and education on SA's VAD framework.

 

  • Dying with Dignity ACT (DWDACT)
    Website: https://www.dwdact.org.au
    Advocates for legal reform and end-of-life choice education within the ACT.

 

  • Northern Territory Voluntary Euthanasia Society (NTVES)
    Website: https://ntves.org.au
    Campaigns for the return of VAD legislation in the NT and supports education and public discussion.

 

 

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  • My Loved One Has Died, What Do I Do Now?

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  • Support Services
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