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What does it mean to TRULY save a life? For humanitarian Moira Kelly, the answer was simple—give a part of herself.
In this episode of Don't Be Caught Dead, we dive deep into the extraordinary life of Moira Kelly, a remarkable humanitarian whose journey has been defined by compassion, courage, and the gift of life. From her early dreams of working alongside Mother Teresa to her recent act of becoming a living kidney donor to Krishna, one of the conjoined twins she brought to Australia, Moira's story is a testament to the power of love and selflessness. Join us as we explore her incredible experiences, the challenges she faced, and the profound impact she has made on countless lives.
Moira's journey began with a childhood fascination for humanitarian work, inspired by the legendary Mother Teresa. After years of dedicated service in various countries, including Albania and Bangladesh, she became a beacon of hope for children in need. Her work with the Children First Foundation and the Moira Kelly Creating Hope Foundation has transformed the lives of many, but it was her recent decision to donate a kidney to Krishna, one of the conjoined twins she helped separate, that truly exemplifies her unwavering commitment to making a difference. As we discuss the emotional rollercoaster of navigating chronic illness, organ donation, and the importance of community support, Moira shares invaluable insights on facing death, embracing life, and the legacy we leave behind.
Remember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
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Guest Bio

Founder of Moira Kelly Creating Hope Foundation
Moira Kelly AO is a celebrated Australian humanitarian who helped bring conjoined twins Krishna and Trishna from Bangladesh to Melbourne for their separation surgery in 2009. When teenager Krishna went into end-stage kidney failure during the COVID pandemic in 2021, Moira became a living donor for her, donating a kidney. Krishna’s life has again been transformed as a result of Moira’s gift.
Summary
Key points from our discussion:
- Moira's early inspirations and her journey to humanitarian work.
- The challenges and triumphs of bringing conjoined twins Krishna and Trishna to Australia for life-saving surgery.
- The emotional and physical journey of becoming a living kidney donor during the COVID pandemic.
- The importance of organ donation and how it can change lives.
Transcript
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Yeah, you just never realize the
world could sometimes be so cruel.
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And how can little children,
you know, little children are
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not meant to suffer Catherine.
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And sometimes I felt that the world,
they know what's going on over here.
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These little kids are just
as precious as children with
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Yeah, you just never realize the
world could sometimes be so cruel.
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And how can little children,
you know, little children are
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not meant to suffer Catherine.
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And sometimes I felt that the world,
they know what's going on over here.
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These little kids are just
as precious as children with
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Australian passports, you know?
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So you just realize how
precious life in is.
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You have an opportunity
to fix a little kid up.
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That's one little child you've saved.
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Welcome to Don't Be Caught Dead.
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A podcast encouraging open conversations
about dying and the death of a loved one.
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I'm your host, Catherine Ashton, founder
of Critical Info, and I'm helping to
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bring your stories of death back to life
because while you may not be ready to die.
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At least you can be prepared.
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Don't be caught dead.
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Acknowledges the lands of the
Kulin Nations and recognizes their
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connection to land, sea, and community.
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We pay our respects to their elders
past, present, and emerging, and
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extend that respect to all Aboriginal
and Torres Strait Islander and First
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Nation peoples around the globe.
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Today I'm speaking with Moira Kelly.
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Moira Kelly is a celebrated Australian
humanitarian who helped bring co-joined
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twins, Krishna and Trishna from Bangladesh
to Melbourne for their separation surgery.
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In 2009, when teenager Krishna went
into end stage kidney failure during the
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COVID Pandemic in 2021, Moira became a
living donor for her donating her kidney.
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Krishna's life has again been
transformed as a result of Moira's gift.
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Thank you so much for
being with us today, Moira.
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Lovely to be here, Catherine.
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Thank you.
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And I have to say that that is a very
abridged version of a bio for you.
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Um, and I am sure more of your story will
evolve, but perhaps if you can set the
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scene, you are the best one to do this.
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Most people will remember you as bringing
the girls over from Bangladesh, but.
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You have had a long history of
supporting people and creating a charity.
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Firstly with Children First Foundation.
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Yeah.
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Children First Foundation in 1999, and
now you have the Moira Kelly Foundation.
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Can you tell me what got
you started in this work?
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Moira.
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The second organization's called
the Moira Kelly Foundation.
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But just as a child when I grew up, I
just heard about stories about Mother
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Theresa and the work that she was
doing, and I just never really believed
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someone like that existed in the world.
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So I was just totally fascinated and I
just thought she was the most wonderful
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thing I'd ever heard about in my life.
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So.
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So I all used to sell my family.
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I was gonna go work with her one day.
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They go, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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So the day I sold my car and saved up
my money from my airfare and headed
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to the airport, I don't think anyone
really believed it was happening.
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So yeah, so my dream was to go work
in Calcutta with Mother Teresa, and I
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suppose that's where the journey started.
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But before that, the year before,
I had gone and spent a year with
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aboriginals in Western Australia.
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In a mission out there and yeah,
made my way back to Melbourne and
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saved up my money and sold my car
and headed to Calcutta and worked
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with the person that I dreamed of.
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All my life was Mother Teresa.
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Two things like that is amazing, but
the fact that you even had the ability
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to travel to Western Australia and
live in a community that is phenomenal.
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Yeah, it was with an organization
at the time called the Palatines.
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It was a fantastic year, and they had
a mission in Perth and also one in
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Tarda, which is about three hours in
land from Geraldton or four hours.
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So yeah, it was a fabulous time and I met
some friends and one of my friends from
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school, we went together and then we met
lots of other lame missionaries and we
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just had a great, we had to great fun.
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It was just fabulous year.
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This seems so long ago now, but it
was just, I was young and carefree and
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the world was my oyster, I suppose.
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And and what age were you when you
were, were you were there Moira?
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About 19 or 20, I think.
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19 or 20.
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Yeah, I think I was about that age.
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I think.
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Something like that.
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And then you found yourself in Calcutta.
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Well, then I came back and saved
my money and went to Calcutta.
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Yep.
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And I remember getting at the airport
and my brothers were there, my sister
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and mom and dad would drop me off and
they were all there at the airport.
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And my brother started saying,
you're not really gonna let go.
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And I'm thinking, what do they not get?
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And you always think as a kid
you're, you know, carers are
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gonna stop you or something.
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And I just turned around and I said,
look mom, I've got a great place to
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stay and I've got a great place to
work and all these wonderful people
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are gonna meet me at the airplane.
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But of course, none of that was true.
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But what she didn't know didn't hurt her.
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So I knew Mother Theresa was famous,
so I'll meet her when I get there.
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Oh my goodness.
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So what were your plans?
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Oh, I just knew Mother Theresa as famous.
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I asked someone when I got there, but
I just didn't want anyone stopping me.
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And I mean, who do you write to?
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Mother Theresa at Hell Cutter?
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I don't know.
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I just went and I just had the
address where there's no Google
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those days, you know, there was no
Google, no, this would've been when
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telegrams was still a, a form of
probably communication envelopes.
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Yeah, all those things.
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Those days.
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Yeah, that's what you did, those
envelopes and Yeah, but I knew she was
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famous, so Calcutta can't be that big.
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I figured.
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So that's, yeah, I did.
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And I suppose I would
never let my kids do it.
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Put that way, Catherine.
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Oh, that.
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I know the irony, isn't it?
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And so tell me, what was it like
when you first got off the airplane
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and you weren't metered by all
of those people you promised?
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Mom?
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I just had to be sort of toughen
up a bit and say, okay, more.
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This is your dream come true.
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And I, I was a bit idealistic.
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I kept thinking, well, mother's now
closer than she's ever been before.
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So once I worked out, which taxi
driver wasn't gonna rip me off.
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I ended up then going to a hostel
in the city, and then once I settled
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into there, I stuck to old maps.
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There's no Google as I said those.
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Yeah.
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And I'd asked people the street, which
is the mother house, mother Teresa.
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So yeah, so that's, that's
really how I got around.
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Did you eventually find
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Mother Teresa?
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I did the, I was very naive and I
just had this great thing in the
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world that Mother Teresa was gonna
be so excited when she met me.
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I didn't realize there were lots of
more Kellys in the world who had the
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same vision to meet Mother Teresa.
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So I remember knocking on her door in
the Laneway and the big door, the mother
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house, and I took a big breath, think,
oh my God, all my dreams are coming.
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True.
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I thought, and I knocked on this door.
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The door finally opened and I was more
shocked that Mother Teresa didn't answer.
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I just was so naive.
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I'm thinking, who on
earth is this to myself?
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And I said, oh, hello.
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Is mother not here?
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And they go, well, come in.
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Come in.
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And it was a mother house.
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So they have a lot of novitiates there.
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People trained to be nuns.
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And I said, I've come from Australia.
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Tell I'm more a Kelly.
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I must have written a few letters.
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I don't remember.
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But I said, did she get my letters?
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She probably got hundreds of s of people.
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So I just thought they were
waiting and so excited to meet me.
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So after a while when I
sat in this office and.
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This nun who was looking after volunteers,
came down and spoke to me, and then I
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was sitting there and she sort of calmed
me down and then this big bell went off.
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I always remember this big bell
coming off, and I remember looking
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out the window and I, that's when
I realized it was a novitiate.
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There were hundreds of mother
Theresa walking from one classroom
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to another, all learning to be nuns.
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I'm thinking, this is like
something out of a nightmare.
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There's hundreds, and where am I
gonna find her in this, in this?
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It was just one of those funny
little moments in my life.
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I remember looking back on that bit.
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Then when I found out, when I finally
worked out where I was gonna work
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at the Home for Dying, destitute
men and boys, and then also a place
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called for the Dying and B, which
means at Children's Orphanage.
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So I was so excited about that.
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I just happened to ask before I
left, you know, is Mother not here?
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And then they had to break the terrible
news to me that Mother Theresa, it was
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actually not the country at the time,
so I was just couldn't believe Mother
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Teresa wasn't there when I looked.
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cause I think for, for people who may
be unfamiliar with Mother Teresa, like.
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She was so highly revered, so,
so popular around the world.
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Yes.
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And was one of the leading peacekeepers.
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And like I remember as a child,
I, I just looked up to her
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and thought she was amazing.
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A to be a woman in this amazing
role and be so, so much of a
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leader in on the world stage.
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She was an icon.
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I mean, there's not a person in the world
who doesn't know who she's, and I can.
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I always say that she
goes past generations.
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I can guarantee the children I
speak in a school to tomorrow.
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Your grandparents will know who she's
and your grandchildren will know.
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So yeah, she's probably the world's
most famous social worker really.
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She really is.
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Some dreams come true.
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I
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think that's really beautiful.
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But I, I do, I do find that it's rather
funny that you had the moment where you
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realized that there was more than one
mother Theresa, and how were you gonna
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find her in amongst all of the habits.
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Yeah.
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So talk me through, how long
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were you there with Mother Teresa?
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It's probably just on two years
in Calcutta, and she has, as I
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said, so many homes in Calcutta.
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So there's so many places.
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But I ended up working every morning
with the brothers of Mother Therea for a
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home for dying, destitute men and boys.
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And then the afternoons
I'd go into, which is in.
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Another part of Calcutta for the
main home of Mother Thereas for
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the dying, destitute men and women.
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And I used to work in the Isha of Vans,
which is the orphanages sometimes in
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the afternoons and things like that.
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So yeah, they were wonderful days and
sort of everything you'd dreamed of
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doing in Calcutta really came true.
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You met lots of other
wonderful like-minded people
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from all over the world.
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And so yeah, it was just
fantastic place to start Your
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missionary work really, I think.
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Yeah, it was fabulous.
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It was just a dream come true.
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And when you left there,
what did you aspire to do?
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What were your hopes
and dreams from there?
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I remember meeting this lady from Norway.
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Her name was Doreen, and she was
an older woman, very glamorous
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and just a beautiful woman.
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And she'd worked in Africa and somewhere
else, and I was so inspired by her stories
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and what she was doing with her life.
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I thought, oh yeah.
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So I don't know.
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I just was really taken by her and.
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I remember I used to get the
Newsweek magazine every week.
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Got that all over the world actually.
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Wherever I was, I got that delivered
to me and I saw an article once in
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America on children with crack and AIDS
problems and I thought, wow, that's a
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really interesting area to go into it.
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Wouldn't you love to do
something like that in America
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and work with the homeless?
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So my goal then was to come back
to Australia, work like crazy, to
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earn the money to go overseas, and
I had to keep going outta money.
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So I thought I'd pop into
Africa for a year, which I did.
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And then I went to the Bronx for two
years and spent two years in the Bronx.
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So really what inspired me was the
stories of other people and what
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they were doing in their life.
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And I thought, yeah, India wasn't
enough for me, I just wanted
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to go somewhere else as well.
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And those days we always thought
the Far East, but now there was
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so much mission that can be done
in the Western world as well.
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You know, you hadn't thought of at
the time, you know, mother Theresa
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always said, you know, go home, go
back and look after your lonely and
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the people in your community as well.
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So.
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Yeah, she was a great, great one
on their own communities as well.
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And she's got homes here in
Melbourne, Victoria as well.
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She looks after people in Australia,
so she's got two houses here in
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Victoria in Melbourne itself.
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Oh really?
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I didn't, I wasn't aware of that.
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Yeah, she's got a, a soup kitchen
in Gore Street, Victoria and she's
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got a woman's shelter for homeless
women and children also here in
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Fitzroy and other, another health.
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So people get a bit of shock when
they hear we have mother Theresa.
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Looking after people in Australia as well.
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'cause sometimes we think of India,
but she's all over the world.
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I think the only country she never
got to, and one of her dreams before
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she died, she would always get to
China, but she could never get there.
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That was one of her goals was
to set up a house in China.
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That's amazing.
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Yeah.
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And so
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tell me what motivated you to, you
know, start children first in 1999?
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I actually did it when I lived in Albania.
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I had the children first
foundation in Albania because I'd
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gone from Albania, from Bosnia.
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So I lived in Eastern Europe for nine
years and I'd gone from the war zone four
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and a half years in Bosnia to Albania.
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I was gonna go set up a soup kitchen
'cause they hadn't got a soup kitchen.
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They had a terrible situation
of homelessness in in Albania.
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That was the plan from friends in Ireland.
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We were gonna send trucks out and
they sort of encouraged me and so they
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were gonna help me set up over there.
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So I went over on my own.
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I actually set up the Children First
Foundation in Albania, and I remember
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I was working with sister's Mother
Teresa there one day and I remember
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there was a turning point in my life.
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I was very determined not to
do operations for kids anymore.
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I'd done so many of that in Bosnia.
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I just wanted to go back to,
you know, doing other aid work
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and not all this one facility.
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Taking kids from one country
to another and, 'cause there
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was so much sat in Bosnia.
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So this nun asked me one day, so
Moira, what are you doing in Bosnia?
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I said, oh sister, I took lots of
kids to Australia, but lot more
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to America and to Ireland, to
Austria, to Belfast for operations.
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And I said, oh really?
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Mo?
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And she asked what the problems
were and, oh, more there's children
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in Albania that need this there.
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You know, Albania was the only third
world country in Europe at the time.
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And I said, oh, well sister, you know.
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I don't do that anymore.
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I've cleansed the old soul.
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I said, but you know,
you are very experienced.
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Your sisters are Mother Teresa
and you've got houses all over the
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world and you have the finance.
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I said, you know, if your sisters wanna
do it, I'm happy to tell you how to do it.
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So about two days later, I was
going to the sister's house and it
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was distribution day every Monday.
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And I remember at the front of
the gate, it was all hundreds of
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people lined up with their token
and I slipped at the front of the
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gate to get in to get my apron.
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And I had a very important job that day.
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Catherine, I was gonna
distribute cooking oil.
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My table was the cooking oil.
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And so they usually go
from one table to another.
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So as I walked in the gate this day.
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I saw three children and they were
to the side of the sisters there in
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the entrance there, just below the
foyer, and they were very disfigured.
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And I went, I was so aghast.
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I was so shocked because I
wasn't expecting to see it.
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And I yelled out to sister, I
said, sister, sister, have you seen
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these three children down here?
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I said, oh my God.
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I said, what's going on
with these three children?
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And she was mopping the
floor up, up on the balcony.
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Couldn't see her, but I could hear her
and as she was mopping she yelled, oh,
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good morning Moira, you've arrived.
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I thought you'd might like to meet these
three children today while you are here.
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So, ah, so that was the sort
of, but I needed to, maybe
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I'm meant to be doing that.
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So that sort of started the role with
these children starting operations
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for kids in Albania as well.
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So then it sort of hasn't
stopped since then.
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So I never did get the mobile soup
fan started, but I certainly did
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lots of other things in Cal, you
know, in Teran and, but actually.
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Albania Toronto is their
birthplace of Mother Teresa.
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Of course.
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She's a ethnic Albanian from Beto
in Macedonia, so she's an Albanian.
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So yes, that was a nice
place to continue the work.
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Yeah.
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And tell me, when you say that you
were doing operations, can you talk us
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through about what that was involving?
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Because obviously that's been coming
consistent throughout all your life.
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I lived in Bosnia.
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People kept arriving with sick
kids, and once you took one child
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to America or to Ireland, then
other people would hear about it.
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So.
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I just started getting documents and
paperwork on children that arrive at
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my refugee camp from all over Bosnia.
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It wasn't necessarily from my area.
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And then I'd sent off to people in
Ireland and that time I wasn't doing
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it in Australia and to America.
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And I remember one stage in moa, I was
up there at the Container Hospital.
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'cause on the East MOA was all.
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These containers set up by
the South Africans, because
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Mossa was a divided city.
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So one side was a Croatian, the
other side was the Bosnian Muslims.
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And so the hospitals were socially
on the west side, so the Muslims
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didn't have really hospitals,
so they had container hospitals.
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And I remember I walked in there one day
and said, did you have any case of kids?
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And basically they gave me a
list of, um, these three pages
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and it was like 30 kids on it.
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And I went, oh my goodness, I, maybe I've
backed more than I could chew, you know?
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But then.
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He said to me, so when
you've gone through that, Ms.
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Kelly, no doubt, come back
and we'll give you the other
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a hundred pages we have here.
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So he thought he'd never see me again
because I was a bit shocked when he
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had that many, 'cause at the stage
I'd done a few children, but I just
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thought I'd reach out to Mo to see
if I could help some kids there.
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And so to make a long story short, I ended
up getting the registrar for pediatrics
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at Massachusetts General Hospital would
come out and spend a week with me.
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In Master and she went through all that
list of paperwork of those children
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and some others, and she chose about,
I think we had about 15 kids who
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were candidates to come to America.
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And there was a group called
Nobody's Children that I hooked up
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with there who were doing fabulous
work in Romania and also in.
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Just outside Boston in New Hampshire.
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And so we ended up about six months
later with I think about 20 of those
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kids in, in Boston, we galvanized
all the hospitals in Boston.
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They were phenomenal.
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So yeah, it was one of those magic
moments and that's where it all
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started when I started taking
big groups of kids like that.
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So I. Yeah, sometimes it's a wing and
a prayer you go by, but sometimes I
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think in life, you know, Catherine,
if you think about things too
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much, you never get anything done.
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So sometimes you just gotta do it.
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I had that saying long before Nike.
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So everything in life, if you think
too much about anything, we'll all be,
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you know, put off with these things.
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So sometimes you just have to do it.
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What point did you move back to Australia?
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Moira, I've never really felt
that I finished in Albania.
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I'd like to have stayed there longer,
but there was a few things that changed.
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That was one little girl from Albania
who had a really bad heart condition.
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I took her to Belfast and she
was operable, but they asked
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for lots and lots of money.
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They asked for like 60,000
pounds, and of course.
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I'm an A worker, but one with no
money, you know, empty pockets,
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and I just never thought it was the
first time in my life I came across a
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place where people would say, unless
you've got the money, we can't do it.
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I just never thought that
would happen when a child's in
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front of your face, you know?
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Yeah.
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So, yeah, it was a
really hard time for me.
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So.
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They did a cardiac catheter, which
was for free, was worth a few thousand
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pounds anyway, that could sort of work
out what was wrong with her heart.
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And she was a little Albanian,
the cutest little thing
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you've ever seen in your life.
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Her little name was Vera and it
was such a long journey that time.
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You know, I lived with other
kids, but she was my last one
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to see if I could get done.
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But it just didn't work out
and, and they said, look.
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If you wanna bring her
back here, I says you can.
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But they said Mo, she's opera, but she
won't be operable within six months.
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And I said, what does that mean?
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I says, mean we can fix her now,
but if you don't operate within
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six months, she won't be operable.
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She'll probably have a, a short
life, probably lived about
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12 or 14, 15 years of age.
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And I'd never even heard
those words before.
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'cause sometimes if you bring a
sick kid to a doctor and a surgeon,
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you think they're gonna fix them.
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Just an expression.
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I have an innocent ignorance, which is
a lovely place to be in life sometimes
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and not accept the world for what it is.
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And so then, you know, after a lot
of tears, and I dunno, how do you
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take her back to obey you and say,
look, I know what's wrong with it.
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They could have fixed it, but
I just didn't have the money.
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'cause they just think
everyone the west has.
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Deep pockets, you know?
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Mm-hmm.
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So that's when we found out, I
rang some friends in Melbourne.
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They told me about they do operate and
they've seen kids on the news who go
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to Melbourne Children's and they came
from New Guinea and that, and they found
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out that we could get a hard operation
done for 10 a half thousand dollars.
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So suddenly that didn't
sound so much anymore.
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Yeah.
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Compared to the 60,000 pounds.
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Yeah.
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So lo and behold, my friend
Louise Warden raised the money
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here in Melbourne and then.
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I had two boys that I, I'd
heard about, it was two years
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trying to get them out of Iraq.
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It was a long story.
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It was little boys called Ahed
Emmanuel, and I meant had to bring
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them forward as well, which was
very complicated at the time.
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But I ended up having to get them
out of Iraq and leave them in Jordan
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with the sister of Mother Teresa
and I had to leave Albania earlier.
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Head to Australia with those two boys
from Iraq and these other children,
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all because of Pan Vera's life, because
otherwise she wouldn't have been operable.
446
00:18:50,135 --> 00:18:53,165
That was a terrible, terrible burden
to have on your back of your head.
447
00:18:53,165 --> 00:18:55,145
So I left Albania sort
of a little bit earlier.
448
00:18:55,145 --> 00:18:58,865
The boys came a bit earlier and
they ended up in Les and, and then
449
00:18:58,865 --> 00:19:02,285
Yeah, and Pan Vera got operated and
got saved and it was phenomenal.
450
00:19:02,285 --> 00:19:03,455
She was a very blue child.
451
00:19:03,455 --> 00:19:04,205
She was a very.
452
00:19:04,490 --> 00:19:07,190
Very sick little girl and she
had a major heart operation.
453
00:19:07,190 --> 00:19:09,290
She had a transposition of
the greater arteries, which is
454
00:19:09,290 --> 00:19:10,910
a operation called a switch.
455
00:19:11,330 --> 00:19:11,660
Yeah.
456
00:19:11,660 --> 00:19:15,230
So that little girl's life because
of Belfast and because of Melbourne.
457
00:19:15,230 --> 00:19:17,900
So, and she's back in Albania
living a normal life now.
458
00:19:17,900 --> 00:19:20,450
So that's how I ended up back
in also quickly because a little
459
00:19:20,450 --> 00:19:21,860
child's life sort of dictated it.
460
00:19:21,860 --> 00:19:24,920
So, and there's not a listener out there
that wouldn't have done the same thing.
461
00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:25,280
So.
462
00:19:25,830 --> 00:19:29,250
Sometimes the universe tells you what
you have to do and little kids faces
463
00:19:29,370 --> 00:19:30,690
are the answers to all that you know?
464
00:19:31,140 --> 00:19:31,230
Yeah.
465
00:19:31,230 --> 00:19:31,620
And
466
00:19:31,620 --> 00:19:35,550
some are probably the most famous
little kids faces that we know that
467
00:19:35,550 --> 00:19:40,200
are associated with you, your adopted
daughters, Krishna and Trishna, who
468
00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:44,760
we mentioned in the intro that you
brought them here to Australia, to
469
00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:50,100
specifically Melbourne and the Royal
Children's for operation in 2009.
470
00:19:50,610 --> 00:19:51,960
How did you first meet them?
471
00:19:52,379 --> 00:19:56,370
Well, I'm actually their legal guardian
alongside their biological mother, who
472
00:19:56,370 --> 00:19:57,870
lives probably about 10 minutes from here.
473
00:19:57,870 --> 00:19:58,590
So I brought her at this day.
474
00:19:59,550 --> 00:20:00,600
She lives there two far.
475
00:20:01,170 --> 00:20:01,710
That's all.
476
00:20:01,710 --> 00:20:02,850
A lot of people always say that.
477
00:20:02,850 --> 00:20:06,450
They call them cs, they call them
adopted, so it doesn't matter.
478
00:20:06,450 --> 00:20:07,560
It's all pretty innocent.
479
00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:09,510
But we heard about them
when I was in Melbourne.
480
00:20:09,510 --> 00:20:12,780
Actually, a plastic surgeon in
Melbourne called me who wasn't
481
00:20:12,780 --> 00:20:13,650
involved with the children's.
482
00:20:13,650 --> 00:20:15,690
And then I rang up a plastic surgeon.
483
00:20:15,690 --> 00:20:20,280
I knew very well Tony Holmes, who was
notorious for his fabulous work and had
484
00:20:20,280 --> 00:20:23,700
done lots of kids with me in the past,
especially from little girl from Pakistan.
485
00:20:23,700 --> 00:20:27,120
It was a huge case one day, and
I told 'em about these kids.
486
00:20:27,120 --> 00:20:29,100
I didn't know much about them, so we just.
487
00:20:29,754 --> 00:20:31,375
I basically went over to Bangladesh.
488
00:20:31,375 --> 00:20:32,125
He said, bring them over.
489
00:20:32,125 --> 00:20:33,895
We'll see what's gonna happen
and what we need to do.
490
00:20:33,895 --> 00:20:36,415
And we thought at the time
they had a heart problem.
491
00:20:36,415 --> 00:20:38,514
So I was dealing with the
cardiologist here at Melbourne.
492
00:20:38,514 --> 00:20:41,004
We didn't think it was a head problem
whether they were joined, but we thought
493
00:20:41,784 --> 00:20:44,395
it was a, it was an issue with their
cardiac issue, which they didn't have.
494
00:20:44,395 --> 00:20:45,865
That wasn't the primary problem.
495
00:20:46,495 --> 00:20:49,764
So yeah, I just remember meeting them
in the private hospital in Bangladesh,
496
00:20:49,825 --> 00:20:53,335
and they were the tiniest little people,
little fish now, the healthy one.
497
00:20:53,335 --> 00:20:56,125
She was chubby and
healthy and cute as ever.
498
00:20:56,760 --> 00:21:00,270
Then you had little Krishy who was
the tiny skinny, you could see her
499
00:21:00,270 --> 00:21:02,790
ribs and her, you could actually
see her heart beating to her chest.
500
00:21:02,850 --> 00:21:03,120
Yeah.
501
00:21:03,120 --> 00:21:05,070
It was a bit confronting and Wow.
502
00:21:05,070 --> 00:21:08,129
So I spent the time in the hospital with
them just to try and get used to looking
503
00:21:08,129 --> 00:21:09,420
after them before I flew them here.
504
00:21:09,420 --> 00:21:13,110
So yeah, that I always remember
the little one sitting there in
505
00:21:13,110 --> 00:21:15,120
this little hot together one.
506
00:21:15,125 --> 00:21:19,190
I. Naso tubes and the other one was
at a bottle and she just bumping
507
00:21:19,215 --> 00:21:20,505
and laughing and smiling to see you.
508
00:21:20,505 --> 00:21:23,985
And I had no idea the journey that
was gonna unfold in that moment.
509
00:21:23,985 --> 00:21:24,375
I met them.
510
00:21:24,375 --> 00:21:25,155
I had no idea.
511
00:21:25,845 --> 00:21:28,815
But yeah, that was the special day in
my life, really meeting them there,
512
00:21:29,505 --> 00:21:32,445
sort of couldn't wait to get them
back to Australia so that someone
513
00:21:32,445 --> 00:21:34,935
else could take the responsibility of
the medical side of them, you know?
514
00:21:34,935 --> 00:21:36,075
So yeah.
515
00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:38,445
So that was where the journey all
began with Trishna and Krishna.
516
00:21:38,895 --> 00:21:42,195
And I have to say, I don't think I
was the only person who waited with
517
00:21:42,195 --> 00:21:46,695
bated breath waiting to see the
outcome when they were separated.
518
00:21:46,695 --> 00:21:51,015
And that was, that was like 38,
40 something hours, wasn't it?
519
00:21:51,020 --> 00:21:51,975
It was a long
520
00:21:51,975 --> 00:21:52,245
time.
521
00:21:52,245 --> 00:21:52,395
It was.
522
00:21:53,085 --> 00:21:53,865
It was crazy.
523
00:21:54,195 --> 00:21:55,425
And that was their last surgery.
524
00:21:55,425 --> 00:21:58,695
But they had many operations before
that, and some of the operations before
525
00:21:58,695 --> 00:22:02,145
that were just as dangerous, if not
more, because the two neurosurgeons
526
00:22:02,145 --> 00:22:03,525
were separating them inside.
527
00:22:03,595 --> 00:22:07,285
Before the last lot was
outside was the cranial stuff.
528
00:22:07,285 --> 00:22:10,795
So yeah, that was a ter I wouldn't,
I would never wanna do it again
529
00:22:10,795 --> 00:22:11,845
and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
530
00:22:11,845 --> 00:22:15,535
And look, if it wasn't for the bravery
and the dedication and the charisma of
531
00:22:15,535 --> 00:22:19,195
these surgeons and the people that said
yes to the girls, they wouldn't be here.
532
00:22:19,195 --> 00:22:21,265
So it certainly wasn't just about me.
533
00:22:21,265 --> 00:22:24,025
It was a big team of the children's
and those brave people who took it
534
00:22:24,025 --> 00:22:27,715
on, and the wonderful support crew I
had around me and the girls as well.
535
00:22:27,715 --> 00:22:29,545
So there were a lot of lonely nights.
536
00:22:29,545 --> 00:22:31,435
I will tell you that you are
on your own at night with them.
537
00:22:31,650 --> 00:22:33,630
Long nights, and they
were very hard nights.
538
00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:36,810
You just hope they'd be awake
every morning you woke up.
539
00:22:36,810 --> 00:22:39,300
There was a few times you'd
think like that, but yeah,
540
00:22:39,300 --> 00:22:40,590
it was a very difficult time.
541
00:22:40,590 --> 00:22:41,970
But you don't regret a thing.
542
00:22:41,970 --> 00:22:44,130
You never would, and you just
had to always keep focus.
543
00:22:44,130 --> 00:22:46,470
And when something bad happened,
you'd just go, okay, what do we do?
544
00:22:46,470 --> 00:22:46,770
What do we do now?
545
00:22:46,770 --> 00:22:50,250
And so, yeah, it was a bit of a journey
and they've made a documentary, but
546
00:22:50,250 --> 00:22:51,360
I've never seen the whole of it.
547
00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:51,690
Never.
548
00:22:51,870 --> 00:22:54,030
I couldn't watch, I've only watched
half of it, the documentary that
549
00:22:54,030 --> 00:22:55,170
was out on Channel seven, but.
550
00:22:55,725 --> 00:22:56,745
I just can't watch it.
551
00:22:56,745 --> 00:22:58,665
'cause it sort of relives
everything you went through.
552
00:22:58,784 --> 00:22:59,685
'cause it was too real.
553
00:22:59,985 --> 00:23:00,375
Yeah.
554
00:23:00,375 --> 00:23:02,895
And you were there for the
first, for the first round.
555
00:23:02,895 --> 00:23:04,334
You don't need to see the replay.
556
00:23:04,665 --> 00:23:05,024
Yeah.
557
00:23:05,024 --> 00:23:06,435
A bit too raw for me, I'm afraid.
558
00:23:06,439 --> 00:23:06,610
Yeah.
559
00:23:06,764 --> 00:23:07,185
Yeah.
560
00:23:07,215 --> 00:23:07,695
I can.
561
00:23:07,695 --> 00:23:08,925
I can appreciate that.
562
00:23:08,985 --> 00:23:12,524
And so the girls are
now 18 years of age now.
563
00:23:12,675 --> 00:23:12,855
Yeah.
564
00:23:13,274 --> 00:23:13,995
Unbelievable.
565
00:23:13,995 --> 00:23:17,084
But yeah, people don't realize that I've
tried to keep them at the press to them
566
00:23:17,084 --> 00:23:18,435
to have a normal life as well, you know?
567
00:23:18,435 --> 00:23:20,655
So it's their decision
now to do their story.
568
00:23:20,655 --> 00:23:24,375
So Trish, she has just done a
story actually with current affair.
569
00:23:24,950 --> 00:23:25,820
She's 18 now.
570
00:23:25,850 --> 00:23:28,430
'cause they've asked a few times
and said, look, I'm not doing that.
571
00:23:28,430 --> 00:23:30,620
I just want the girls have a
normal life, but when they're their
572
00:23:30,620 --> 00:23:31,520
age, they can do what they like.
573
00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:35,300
So fishy has just done a story is
gonna air probably pretty soon, and she
574
00:23:35,300 --> 00:23:37,639
just wanted to have this opportunity
to thank Australia for what they did
575
00:23:37,639 --> 00:23:40,909
for her and all the prayers and the
doctors who never gave up on her and the
576
00:23:40,909 --> 00:23:43,010
people who are around me and the team.
577
00:23:43,530 --> 00:23:46,350
So it was her story of just
saying thank you and look because
578
00:23:46,350 --> 00:23:47,159
of the decisions you made.
579
00:23:47,159 --> 00:23:47,580
Look at me.
580
00:23:47,580 --> 00:23:49,260
And she spoke on behalf of her sister.
581
00:23:49,590 --> 00:23:52,050
So it's something that she wanted
to do, and it was her choice.
582
00:23:52,050 --> 00:23:56,550
And so, yes, she's a beautiful,
charismatic, outgoing, funny
583
00:23:56,610 --> 00:24:00,990
young lady, and she's very, very
protective of her beautiful sister.
584
00:24:01,515 --> 00:24:03,105
And tell me about your story.
585
00:24:03,105 --> 00:24:08,985
So from the age of three to the age
of 18, have you always been their
586
00:24:08,985 --> 00:24:12,825
legal guardian and have they actually
resided with you here in Australia?
587
00:24:12,915 --> 00:24:13,095
Yes.
588
00:24:13,305 --> 00:24:15,435
They came out when they were
about six months actually,
589
00:24:15,585 --> 00:24:16,545
when they came to Australia.
590
00:24:16,545 --> 00:24:16,725
Yeah.
591
00:24:16,755 --> 00:24:17,775
So from the start, yeah.
592
00:24:18,195 --> 00:24:20,380
So from the moment they
landed in Australia, it was.
593
00:24:20,795 --> 00:24:21,990
I slept with 'em every single night.
594
00:24:22,770 --> 00:24:25,050
So, yes, they've, um, always been my care.
595
00:24:25,050 --> 00:24:28,590
And look, they were really very sick
little girls and they had a lot of
596
00:24:28,590 --> 00:24:31,770
medical needs at home, you know, so most
of those kids would be left in hospital.
597
00:24:31,770 --> 00:24:36,210
But anyway, I think a good thing,
a lot of people on our side and the
598
00:24:36,210 --> 00:24:37,710
good lord kept them healthy and.
599
00:24:38,175 --> 00:24:39,165
Kept us vigilant.
600
00:24:39,165 --> 00:24:42,135
So yeah, they were, it was, you
know, they had trackies, they had
601
00:24:42,615 --> 00:24:43,995
blood pressures going at nighttime.
602
00:24:43,995 --> 00:24:46,005
They had feeding tubes,
they had injections.
603
00:24:46,215 --> 00:24:49,575
It was just sometimes it
looked like a mini, I see.
604
00:24:49,575 --> 00:24:50,655
U in my lounge room, really?
605
00:24:50,955 --> 00:24:54,465
But those are just memories
that go back so far now.
606
00:24:55,125 --> 00:24:57,495
And now they're just sort me,
young ladies, really, you know?
607
00:24:57,959 --> 00:24:59,669
And their mother Lovely.
608
00:24:59,669 --> 00:25:03,719
Has always been involved as, as much
as she can from my understanding.
609
00:25:03,719 --> 00:25:04,350
Is that right?
610
00:25:05,399 --> 00:25:08,280
Well, she's, she went back for a couple
of years to her family and then came
611
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,770
back again and, well, the girls are
older now, so she doesn't see them
612
00:25:10,770 --> 00:25:14,520
as much, but Trisha pops over there
probably a couple times a month for a
613
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:18,480
nice curry and she's got two younger
children now, so she's sort of busy
614
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:19,889
with them and the girls have moved on.
615
00:25:19,889 --> 00:25:23,909
So they certainly saw Lovely, a fair bit,
and we've just become friends now, so
616
00:25:23,909 --> 00:25:27,700
it's more like a. An adult relationship
and she catches up with them when she
617
00:25:27,700 --> 00:25:29,470
does, but she's got a little newborn baby.
618
00:25:29,470 --> 00:25:33,160
She's is only a year old now
and a 10-year-old boy, so
619
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:34,180
she's a busy mum with that.
620
00:25:34,180 --> 00:25:35,470
So she's just happy.
621
00:25:35,470 --> 00:25:38,620
Her kids are okay and done well, and
yeah, so she's not far from here and
622
00:25:39,010 --> 00:25:41,320
yeah, so she's sort of a family friend.
623
00:25:41,895 --> 00:25:44,115
That's great to have that context for
624
00:25:44,115 --> 00:25:49,035
us and something that only, you know,
obviously like came out very openly.
625
00:25:49,335 --> 00:25:53,505
Much to, I think your surprise last
year when you're on the, the radio
626
00:25:53,505 --> 00:25:58,065
interview with Neil Mitchell on
three A was the fact that you had
627
00:25:58,095 --> 00:26:02,865
had gone through the process of organ
donation with Krishna during COVID.
628
00:26:02,895 --> 00:26:06,465
So I'm sure that wasn't like her.
629
00:26:06,889 --> 00:26:10,970
End stage kidney failure issues, was
that something that had been building
630
00:26:10,970 --> 00:26:14,885
or something that you were aware of
after the original operation or no.
631
00:26:15,675 --> 00:26:19,215
When the girls were joined, one girl
had high blood pressure, the other
632
00:26:19,215 --> 00:26:21,435
one had low blood pressure, so the
one that had low blood pressure
633
00:26:21,945 --> 00:26:23,445
had low profusion to the kidneys.
634
00:26:23,775 --> 00:26:27,945
So of course they were underdeveloped,
but no one really thought that she'd have
635
00:26:27,945 --> 00:26:29,595
a problem until she became to adulthood.
636
00:26:30,165 --> 00:26:32,865
But they always say any child
with a chronic illness, they
637
00:26:32,865 --> 00:26:35,860
can either sell through puberty
or would hit them really hard.
638
00:26:36,540 --> 00:26:39,450
And it just hit Krishna so
hard unexpectedly to all
639
00:26:39,450 --> 00:26:40,410
of the team at the kids.
640
00:26:40,410 --> 00:26:42,510
And yeah, she became a
very sick little girl.
641
00:26:42,510 --> 00:26:46,110
So those stories you heard on the
television that people waiting
642
00:26:46,110 --> 00:26:49,620
for ambulances like for three
or two hours, that was me here.
643
00:26:49,620 --> 00:26:52,200
And sometimes Krishy was having seizures.
644
00:26:52,530 --> 00:26:53,580
It was very rude and.
645
00:26:53,955 --> 00:26:55,004
Waiting for ambulances to come.
646
00:26:55,004 --> 00:26:59,055
And it wasn't epilepsy, it was kidney
related, and they were just horrific
647
00:26:59,055 --> 00:27:01,095
times and we got canceled three times.
648
00:27:01,095 --> 00:27:04,185
And yeah, it was just a,
a very horrific thing.
649
00:27:04,190 --> 00:27:07,004
And, and see, Krishy's got special
needs too, but she always knows
650
00:27:07,004 --> 00:27:08,264
the world's a beautiful place.
651
00:27:08,264 --> 00:27:11,325
And she, like all six children,
they always look at their mom's,
652
00:27:11,325 --> 00:27:12,555
moms are gonna fix everything up.
653
00:27:12,555 --> 00:27:15,735
So when the time came and they said,
you know, she was gonna have to have.
654
00:27:15,875 --> 00:27:17,885
Kidney transplant straight
away said, well, can I do that?
655
00:27:17,885 --> 00:27:18,455
Can I do that?
656
00:27:19,055 --> 00:27:19,710
Because I never knew how.
657
00:27:19,830 --> 00:27:20,375
I knew nothing.
658
00:27:20,375 --> 00:27:22,625
I only ever heard about
donors who had died.
659
00:27:22,625 --> 00:27:23,765
I'd never heard about live donors.
660
00:27:23,765 --> 00:27:26,765
I mean, you might have heard about it,
but I didn't really take it on board.
661
00:27:26,765 --> 00:27:28,775
And so now I'm just so passionate.
662
00:27:28,775 --> 00:27:31,655
I just wish I had another spare kidney
because it was such an easy thing to
663
00:27:31,655 --> 00:27:32,675
do and it's such a good thing to do.
664
00:27:32,675 --> 00:27:36,335
And I look at Krishy and I just
sometimes can't believe that, you know.
665
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:36,920
Wow.
666
00:27:37,010 --> 00:27:38,810
There's something I've
really done to save her life.
667
00:27:38,810 --> 00:27:38,990
You know?
668
00:27:38,990 --> 00:27:39,590
That's how I feel.
669
00:27:39,590 --> 00:27:42,770
Anyway, but then I found out
there's like 14,000 Australians.
670
00:27:42,770 --> 00:27:46,460
People, moms and dads and uncles and
aunties and cousins and sisters out there,
671
00:27:47,090 --> 00:27:50,000
brothers who are wanting kidneys, and I'm
thinking, God, if everyone in Australia
672
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:54,350
knew that someone like me can do to
Krishna, she's a Bangladeshi origin, and
673
00:27:54,350 --> 00:27:57,560
I'm just an Aussie girl from Melbourne,
and I've got the same kidney function
674
00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:59,540
I had before I gave my kidney away.
675
00:27:59,900 --> 00:28:01,580
So everything's back to normal to me.
676
00:28:01,580 --> 00:28:03,020
You wouldn't even know I had one kidney.
677
00:28:03,350 --> 00:28:04,520
I'm just so excited that I did it.
678
00:28:04,855 --> 00:28:06,985
And I was so excited that
they said I could do it.
679
00:28:06,985 --> 00:28:09,895
And I passed the medical, and I
remember this great nurse telling me
680
00:28:09,895 --> 00:28:12,775
once when I was a bit upset, when I
heard Chrisy was so sick, and he caught
681
00:28:12,775 --> 00:28:14,935
me in the downstairs of the children.
682
00:28:14,935 --> 00:28:15,775
He said, Mo, you're okay?
683
00:28:15,775 --> 00:28:16,525
And his name is Brenda.
684
00:28:16,525 --> 00:28:20,185
I said, oh, he knew me from years ago
from all my heart kids on the heart ward.
685
00:28:20,725 --> 00:28:21,955
And I said, oh, you won't believe it.
686
00:28:22,225 --> 00:28:23,875
Josh has just said Chrisy needs a kidney.
687
00:28:24,490 --> 00:28:26,710
He must be crazy 'cause I was so shocked.
688
00:28:27,010 --> 00:28:30,190
Josh was the specialist and he started
talk telling me about it's not more,
689
00:28:30,190 --> 00:28:32,470
you know, it's not as bad as it sounds
and you know more if you don't pass,
690
00:28:32,470 --> 00:28:33,490
you're gonna get a great medical.
691
00:28:33,490 --> 00:28:36,010
It's all for nothing, you know, and you'll
find there's anything else wrong with
692
00:28:36,010 --> 00:28:38,470
they, so you gonna, you get a medical
that no Australian will ever have.
693
00:28:38,740 --> 00:28:42,125
So that was, was selling car, I think,
I don't know because the most important
694
00:28:42,125 --> 00:28:44,920
thing was that Krishy would get a kidney
and, you know, you'd get over this really
695
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:48,100
quickly and yeah, she'd do so well,
she'd never have to go on dialysis.
696
00:28:48,100 --> 00:28:49,540
And so sort of.
697
00:28:49,645 --> 00:28:52,135
Probably with that reassurance I need to
hear, 'cause I thought they were crazy.
698
00:28:52,645 --> 00:28:52,827
What did they do?
699
00:28:52,827 --> 00:28:53,725
Why did you wanna give Chrisy a kidney?
700
00:28:53,725 --> 00:28:54,535
She just got a new head.
701
00:28:54,535 --> 00:28:57,205
Why She couldn't understand.
702
00:28:57,615 --> 00:29:00,945
How the world could be so cool,
but Well, what a miracle we had
703
00:29:00,945 --> 00:29:02,595
was, um, yeah, it was so easy too.
704
00:29:02,595 --> 00:29:03,825
You know, it was amazing.
705
00:29:04,125 --> 00:29:07,125
The team at the oted, they did the
kidney transplants for the parents, for
706
00:29:07,125 --> 00:29:08,835
the children's and they were amazing.
707
00:29:08,865 --> 00:29:12,405
It's very, very private and very separate
and you go through rigorous medicals
708
00:29:12,405 --> 00:29:15,045
and I'm not really going into, I can
let other people have it, but myself.
709
00:29:15,045 --> 00:29:15,855
So it was a bit challenging.
710
00:29:16,065 --> 00:29:16,590
But yeah.
711
00:29:16,635 --> 00:29:18,705
You found out I ticked all the boxes.
712
00:29:18,705 --> 00:29:20,145
'cause not everyone can be a donor.
713
00:29:20,370 --> 00:29:21,600
Because you don't pass the medical.
714
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:24,060
So I realized I was in that lucky
group of, you know, one in a
715
00:29:24,060 --> 00:29:25,199
hundred that could be a donor.
716
00:29:25,199 --> 00:29:28,409
So I was just so excited and kept
looking at Chrisy, had lots of tears
717
00:29:28,409 --> 00:29:31,020
and, and you know, it was a very
special moment for my best friend.
718
00:29:31,020 --> 00:29:34,080
Louise came along too, and me,
and, and Lovely would come to some
719
00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:35,610
of my appointments and lovely.
720
00:29:35,610 --> 00:29:35,939
Couldn't.
721
00:29:36,305 --> 00:29:36,995
Be a donor.
722
00:29:36,995 --> 00:29:39,635
'cause she had diabetes, so she was
there for some of my appointments
723
00:29:39,635 --> 00:29:40,535
and things like that as well.
724
00:29:40,535 --> 00:29:43,685
So she was certainly a part of
that journey as well as my close
725
00:29:43,685 --> 00:29:46,205
friends, you know, because you
can't do without support around you.
726
00:29:46,205 --> 00:29:46,955
You need that as well.
727
00:29:46,955 --> 00:29:50,495
You know, the only hard thing for
me really was the fact that it was
728
00:29:50,495 --> 00:29:53,305
the first time in my life I couldn't
be in the hospital with Krishy.
729
00:29:53,615 --> 00:29:54,785
'cause I had to be at the Austin.
730
00:29:55,205 --> 00:29:55,295
Yeah.
731
00:29:55,295 --> 00:29:58,175
And I remember Josh saying my, if that's
hard, some parents find that too hard.
732
00:29:58,235 --> 00:29:58,775
Don't do it.
733
00:29:59,140 --> 00:29:59,481
No, no, no.
734
00:29:59,481 --> 00:30:00,000
I'll do it.
735
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:00,365
I'll do it, I'll do it.
736
00:30:00,995 --> 00:30:02,975
I couldn't believe it
was that easy to say no.
737
00:30:02,975 --> 00:30:03,305
I said, no, no, no.
738
00:30:03,305 --> 00:30:04,145
I wanna do the kidneys.
739
00:30:04,545 --> 00:30:08,175
I couldn't believe it was that Krishy
would have to learn to live with that.
740
00:30:08,175 --> 00:30:13,245
So Marilyn, who lives in Whittlesea, and
she stayed with Krishy in hospital during
741
00:30:13,245 --> 00:30:17,025
the day, and I had someone at night,
so someone who knew Krishy really well,
742
00:30:17,025 --> 00:30:18,585
but Marilyn stayed with her 24 hours.
743
00:30:18,675 --> 00:30:18,945
Really?
744
00:30:18,945 --> 00:30:19,095
Well.
745
00:30:19,095 --> 00:30:22,240
I was in the Austin hospital, so that
was the only tough thing, but you know.
746
00:30:23,010 --> 00:30:23,850
She was unconscious.
747
00:30:23,850 --> 00:30:24,420
A lot of it too.
748
00:30:24,420 --> 00:30:24,720
So,
749
00:30:25,290 --> 00:30:30,840
and tell me, what was it for you, a
woman who has spent really her entire
750
00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:34,830
life, ensuring that people can get
the medical treatment that they need.
751
00:30:35,190 --> 00:30:38,610
How was it for the tables to be
turned when you became the patient?
752
00:30:38,970 --> 00:30:42,810
What was the, some of the things that you
learned, you know, through that process?
753
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:45,990
Well, I'll be honest with you, I was
really nervous, so I hadn't thought
754
00:30:45,990 --> 00:30:50,010
about it until probably a month before
I kept, I was so focused on Krishna.
755
00:30:50,115 --> 00:30:51,195
And what was going on.
756
00:30:51,195 --> 00:30:53,925
Then suddenly, um, I um,
started thinking, oh good.
757
00:30:53,925 --> 00:30:56,235
I said, I remember my good friend
sister fr I said, God, I better work
758
00:30:56,235 --> 00:30:57,135
out what's gonna happen with me.
759
00:30:57,135 --> 00:31:00,255
So I started googling and
thinking, oh, oh, okay.
760
00:31:01,095 --> 00:31:01,845
Even thought about it.
761
00:31:02,175 --> 00:31:04,185
Myra, don't they, haven't
you heard that one?
762
00:31:04,185 --> 00:31:05,355
Don't Google it.
763
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:08,040
I, I heard, don't, I have learned
that a lot of things now, but.
764
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,670
I remember I was quite nervous
then thinking, oh God, you know,
765
00:31:11,730 --> 00:31:14,160
'cause the only time I ever had
any operation was in Calcutta.
766
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:17,070
I had my appendix taken out
by Mother Teresa's surgeon.
767
00:31:17,070 --> 00:31:18,390
Actually, that's another
story for the book.
768
00:31:18,390 --> 00:31:18,750
One day.
769
00:31:18,750 --> 00:31:20,010
I think that was wow.
770
00:31:20,010 --> 00:31:20,370
Crazy night.
771
00:31:20,670 --> 00:31:22,500
But anyway, and I remember one day.
772
00:31:23,129 --> 00:31:24,120
The turning point for me.
773
00:31:24,150 --> 00:31:25,800
'cause I started getting
very nervous and Oh God.
774
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:28,110
You know, and just
wanted to be knocked out.
775
00:31:28,110 --> 00:31:31,350
But there was one day I came into the
children's hospital, Trisha was taken
776
00:31:31,350 --> 00:31:35,400
again by ambulance and she was really sick
and we're in the Resus room and then they
777
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,790
focus us into the treatment room to put a
line in to Krishna because when the girls
778
00:31:38,790 --> 00:31:40,379
would join, they lost all their lines.
779
00:31:40,410 --> 00:31:40,855
'cause they had so many.
780
00:31:41,565 --> 00:31:42,315
My Vs in.
781
00:31:42,315 --> 00:31:46,185
And so they had to go into this room and
Trish's always very traumatized by the
782
00:31:46,185 --> 00:31:48,225
hospital and she's very good these days.
783
00:31:48,435 --> 00:31:51,465
And I just remember, 'cause Trisha
has got special needs, little things.
784
00:31:51,855 --> 00:31:52,515
Oh we understand.
785
00:31:52,515 --> 00:31:53,175
But she doesn't say.
786
00:31:53,175 --> 00:31:56,145
But I just remember she turned to me
this day, uh, and I just had tears.
787
00:31:56,145 --> 00:31:57,405
I still bring tears in my eyes now.
788
00:31:57,405 --> 00:31:59,805
She said to me, mommy, enough enough.
789
00:32:00,034 --> 00:32:00,754
I said, Krishy, what?
790
00:32:00,754 --> 00:32:02,585
And this doctor, and
these two nurses are busy.
791
00:32:02,645 --> 00:32:03,665
They didn't know what was going on.
792
00:32:03,665 --> 00:32:05,645
They wouldn't have realized this
is something Krishy doesn't say.
793
00:32:06,095 --> 00:32:07,415
She says, mommy, enough, enough.
794
00:32:07,415 --> 00:32:07,835
Finish.
795
00:32:07,835 --> 00:32:08,195
Finish.
796
00:32:08,225 --> 00:32:08,615
Enough.
797
00:32:08,615 --> 00:32:08,975
Enough.
798
00:32:08,975 --> 00:32:09,995
Like she had enough.
799
00:32:09,995 --> 00:32:10,925
She doesn't want this anymore.
800
00:32:11,685 --> 00:32:12,495
So, you know what?
801
00:32:12,735 --> 00:32:15,405
I just pulled my eyes out, I think
all that night in the hospital, and
802
00:32:15,405 --> 00:32:17,805
I just knew, she was trying to tell
me she couldn't do this anymore.
803
00:32:18,225 --> 00:32:19,335
I'm sick of being rushed to hospital.
804
00:32:19,335 --> 00:32:20,325
I'm sick of feeling like this.
805
00:32:20,325 --> 00:32:22,125
And so I rang up the next day.
806
00:32:22,125 --> 00:32:23,145
I said, can we just do this operation?
807
00:32:23,145 --> 00:32:23,745
Can we get this done?
808
00:32:23,745 --> 00:32:24,440
Krishy needs this done.
809
00:32:24,500 --> 00:32:27,195
I'm worried it doesn't work if this,
we just wait till we get a date again.
810
00:32:27,195 --> 00:32:30,615
And I remember the day I went in the
theater, the theater nurse at the
811
00:32:30,615 --> 00:32:34,320
Austin, the renal nurse at the Austin
came down to the room before I went in.
812
00:32:34,810 --> 00:32:36,129
Geez Mo, you are pretty good, aren't you?
813
00:32:36,159 --> 00:32:37,990
I said, um, geez, I just
thought you'd be nervous.
814
00:32:37,990 --> 00:32:40,449
I'd come in specifically to see
you go to sleep and whatever.
815
00:32:40,449 --> 00:32:41,830
I said, no, no, I just want done.
816
00:32:41,830 --> 00:32:42,250
Take it out.
817
00:32:42,250 --> 00:32:42,639
I'm fine.
818
00:32:42,639 --> 00:32:43,209
I'm great.
819
00:32:43,330 --> 00:32:45,310
Just get this thing outta me
and take it to the children.
820
00:32:45,385 --> 00:32:48,580
So I said, because I just knew
where Krishy was coming from.
821
00:32:48,580 --> 00:32:51,639
So sometimes it takes a child
to remind you, not that I
822
00:32:51,639 --> 00:32:52,570
need, I was gonna do it anyway.
823
00:32:52,570 --> 00:32:56,260
But I wasn't saying nervous or
nothing after I saw, because kids
824
00:32:56,260 --> 00:32:59,139
like Trisha and people like that
sometimes they just have enough.
825
00:33:00,254 --> 00:33:00,975
They wanna give up.
826
00:33:00,975 --> 00:33:03,075
So they need people like
us not to give up on them.
827
00:33:03,615 --> 00:33:03,975
Yeah.
828
00:33:04,004 --> 00:33:04,725
To see your kids.
829
00:33:04,785 --> 00:33:05,955
People suffer like that, you know?
830
00:33:05,955 --> 00:33:06,675
And someone you love.
831
00:33:07,305 --> 00:33:08,385
It doesn't have to be someone you love.
832
00:33:08,385 --> 00:33:09,735
It could be somewhere stranger as well.
833
00:33:10,305 --> 00:33:13,395
We have an opportunity to do
something good and I just want this
834
00:33:13,395 --> 00:33:16,215
done then I was just couldn't wait
to get it outta my body into hers.
835
00:33:17,175 --> 00:33:17,655
Yes.
836
00:33:17,745 --> 00:33:20,085
Well, I just, with little
note there, sometimes wisdom
837
00:33:20,175 --> 00:33:21,285
doesn't always come in suits.
838
00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:25,560
Sometimes young people and children
have a lot to teach us, but the recovery
839
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:29,129
for her, when we were in a hospital,
I, I got out to six days and I went
840
00:33:29,129 --> 00:33:31,379
to the Children's for a couple of
days with her, and then we came home.
841
00:33:31,889 --> 00:33:36,389
So I'd be on the couch going, oh, oh,
oh, just for a couple of days and she'd
842
00:33:36,389 --> 00:33:37,530
be hopping around the house with them.
843
00:33:37,830 --> 00:33:40,710
I'd had a dance and singing,
so I used to laugh, thinking.
844
00:33:41,385 --> 00:33:44,325
It's either you are in a really good
way or my kid is doing a great job.
845
00:33:44,775 --> 00:33:45,765
We just had a lot of jokes.
846
00:33:45,765 --> 00:33:49,215
So yeah, I was back to normal in a couple
of weeks and it's great 'cause you get
847
00:33:49,215 --> 00:33:52,065
sport and people start looking after
you for a change, which is unusual.
848
00:33:52,065 --> 00:33:56,325
So yeah, so there was a lot of highs
and lows, but most of it was positive.
849
00:33:56,325 --> 00:33:59,265
And to see this, and you know,
the amazing thing is Catherine
850
00:33:59,385 --> 00:34:00,585
Trish's learning better now.
851
00:34:00,585 --> 00:34:02,565
She's walking, she's
talking, she's happier.
852
00:34:02,730 --> 00:34:04,140
I couldn't work out what it was.
853
00:34:04,140 --> 00:34:07,650
And I just said to Mythologist last year,
the kids, I said, we've worked out what
854
00:34:07,650 --> 00:34:10,650
it was is because she's never felt so
well in her life and she couldn't tell us.
855
00:34:10,650 --> 00:34:13,620
And she's just come on leaps and
bounds and sometimes we look,
856
00:34:13,679 --> 00:34:15,150
oh wow, what did you say then?
857
00:34:15,150 --> 00:34:17,639
So she's the happiest human
being on the plate here.
858
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:19,469
She's the most beautiful
thing on two legs.
859
00:34:19,469 --> 00:34:23,969
So she runs the house and we just love
her and we wouldn't change for quid.
860
00:34:23,969 --> 00:34:24,330
So.
861
00:34:24,825 --> 00:34:28,695
Just having think that we've done a kidney
in that little girl is just even a bonus.
862
00:34:28,695 --> 00:34:30,105
But sometimes when she's doing
863
00:34:30,105 --> 00:34:31,469
it, I'll say, listen,
Krishy, behave yourself.
864
00:34:31,469 --> 00:34:31,665
I'm
865
00:34:31,665 --> 00:34:32,745
giving you my kidney behavior.
866
00:34:32,745 --> 00:34:34,935
Look after my kidney in there and
867
00:34:34,935 --> 00:34:35,335
comes in.
868
00:34:35,335 --> 00:34:36,135
Anyone where Krishy is?
869
00:34:36,135 --> 00:34:36,735
Oh yeah, she's
870
00:34:36,735 --> 00:34:38,805
in the backyard with my
kidney in the other room.
871
00:34:39,225 --> 00:34:41,205
So many people can say those things.
872
00:34:41,205 --> 00:34:42,870
So not many people can.
873
00:34:44,130 --> 00:34:45,070
No, they can't.
874
00:34:45,070 --> 00:34:45,550
Exactly.
875
00:34:45,650 --> 00:34:45,870
No.
876
00:34:46,570 --> 00:34:46,790
Yes.
877
00:34:47,534 --> 00:34:49,424
See, my mom only had
one kidney all her life.
878
00:34:49,514 --> 00:34:52,094
She didn't even know that
until she was having babies.
879
00:34:52,094 --> 00:34:54,495
So a lot of people when have
one kid not realizing, so my
880
00:34:54,495 --> 00:34:55,725
mom lived to the late eighties.
881
00:34:55,725 --> 00:34:57,980
So yeah, you can survive
on one kidney for sure.
882
00:34:58,634 --> 00:35:03,645
It's interesting you're saying that that
very big difference between someone who
883
00:35:03,645 --> 00:35:08,115
has gone through the process of managing
their health through a chronic illness
884
00:35:08,325 --> 00:35:14,234
and then all of a sudden they have a new
organ which allows them to thrive in a
885
00:35:14,234 --> 00:35:16,035
way that they never have been able to.
886
00:35:16,365 --> 00:35:17,895
Yeah, she's just a different person.
887
00:35:18,254 --> 00:35:20,745
And now I've heard it from other
people too, but I didn't put two
888
00:35:20,745 --> 00:35:24,585
and two together and we've just seen
a little person evolve into this.
889
00:35:25,095 --> 00:35:27,765
Beautiful young girl with lots
of energy and happiness and
890
00:35:27,855 --> 00:35:28,995
yeah, it was just amazing.
891
00:35:29,025 --> 00:35:34,065
We became sort of a norm for her before
and now we realize what the potential was.
892
00:35:34,065 --> 00:35:38,175
So, yeah, I often say we all have a spare,
so you know, we all have one there if we
893
00:35:38,175 --> 00:35:41,985
wanna do something altruistic in our life
and you know, something for someone else.
894
00:35:41,985 --> 00:35:45,765
And so, yeah, that's why I'm really
passionate about it now, realizing, wow, I
895
00:35:45,765 --> 00:35:48,825
wish I'd known this sooner, but if I had,
'cause he might not have got my kidney.
896
00:35:48,825 --> 00:35:51,675
So, and you know, my son Emmanuel,
the first thing he said was, mum.
897
00:35:52,140 --> 00:35:53,520
Put me on the list to donate.
898
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:55,200
I said, well, I'll put you
on the list right there.
899
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:58,740
So he was amazed at how many people have
um, said, oh gee, I would like to do
900
00:35:58,740 --> 00:36:00,120
something like that as well on Inquire.
901
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:03,420
And so until you start talking about
it, you don't realize people don't know.
902
00:36:03,420 --> 00:36:06,630
So, and then just one of
my volunteers here today.
903
00:36:07,575 --> 00:36:08,565
She's a Scottish girl.
904
00:36:08,565 --> 00:36:11,985
She heard I was doing this podcast and she
says, Mo, I just want you to know it took
905
00:36:11,985 --> 00:36:13,365
me one minute, but I've just registered.
906
00:36:13,365 --> 00:36:15,375
I can't believe I, I've
just registered as a donor.
907
00:36:15,615 --> 00:36:16,755
Oh, that's fantastic.
908
00:36:17,745 --> 00:36:17,895
Yeah.
909
00:36:17,895 --> 00:36:22,065
She just told me an hour before
this podcast, I said, oh, what
910
00:36:22,065 --> 00:36:23,085
makes you, I was fully embarrassed.
911
00:36:23,085 --> 00:36:24,225
I couldn't believe I hadn't done it.
912
00:36:24,825 --> 00:36:27,675
And she just registered just an
hour ago before this podcast.
913
00:36:27,675 --> 00:36:31,575
So if someone gets one person out
there with these beautiful sympathetic
914
00:36:31,575 --> 00:36:35,175
ears, listens today, they might
think just, you know, plant the seed.
915
00:36:35,355 --> 00:36:36,435
I figure plant the seed.
916
00:36:37,305 --> 00:36:40,605
There's like donors, but there's also
donors out there who like what Yasmina's
917
00:36:40,605 --> 00:36:44,715
just done, my good friend who works
here full-time as a volunteer, so Wow.
918
00:36:45,015 --> 00:36:45,675
Hadn't done that.
919
00:36:45,675 --> 00:36:46,305
She hadn't done it.
920
00:36:46,605 --> 00:36:50,775
And that's the thing I think that a
lot of people I know when I went for
921
00:36:50,775 --> 00:36:55,455
my license many years ago, it was part
of the process that with your license,
922
00:36:55,695 --> 00:37:00,015
whereas now it's just a matter of going
onto the website and you can check
923
00:37:00,015 --> 00:37:03,705
whether you're registered and then
also you can actually register as well.
924
00:37:03,705 --> 00:37:06,556
So as you said, it was very
simple for your friend to.
925
00:37:06,735 --> 00:37:09,075
And it is, it's a really simple process.
926
00:37:09,405 --> 00:37:13,065
I didn't realize that one donor,
deceased donor can provide seven
927
00:37:13,065 --> 00:37:16,095
organs, save seven people's lives,
which I didn't realize that either was.
928
00:37:16,095 --> 00:37:16,605
I was shocked.
929
00:37:16,605 --> 00:37:18,945
You know, you always think of
the kidney of the heart and it
930
00:37:18,945 --> 00:37:20,475
can save seven people's lives.
931
00:37:20,685 --> 00:37:22,545
I was amazed at that as well, so, wow.
932
00:37:23,205 --> 00:37:23,475
Phenomenal.
933
00:37:23,475 --> 00:37:24,105
It's phenomenal,
934
00:37:24,105 --> 00:37:24,465
isn't it?
935
00:37:24,465 --> 00:37:28,155
And something that people ask me
quite a lot when I, I speak to sort
936
00:37:28,155 --> 00:37:32,745
of probus groups and those sorts of
community organizations, people are
937
00:37:32,745 --> 00:37:36,645
always concerned that there might
be a use by date on their organs.
938
00:37:36,915 --> 00:37:41,235
And something that I found out
when I did a podcast with Donate
939
00:37:41,235 --> 00:37:46,155
Life last year was the fact that
corneas are still something that.
940
00:37:46,475 --> 00:37:50,345
Don't age, which I'm like
corneas of all things.
941
00:37:50,345 --> 00:37:50,585
You know?
942
00:37:51,815 --> 00:37:52,535
I heard that once too.
943
00:37:52,535 --> 00:37:55,355
Yes, I did hear that 90 year
olds can donate to corneas.
944
00:37:55,625 --> 00:37:55,895
Yeah.
945
00:37:56,134 --> 00:37:57,815
To give people a second chance.
946
00:37:57,815 --> 00:37:59,315
So yeah, we all can be donors.
947
00:37:59,315 --> 00:38:03,305
And I suppose the important thing
too is having a conversation without
948
00:38:03,305 --> 00:38:04,985
selling too cliche, but also.
949
00:38:05,294 --> 00:38:07,544
Like letting family members
know you really wanna do this.
950
00:38:07,544 --> 00:38:10,185
So Yasmina, that's why
she got embarrassed more.
951
00:38:10,185 --> 00:38:10,904
I'm just embarrassed.
952
00:38:10,904 --> 00:38:13,365
I've been with you for how long
and I hadn't realized until
953
00:38:13,365 --> 00:38:14,535
today that I hadn't registered.
954
00:38:14,714 --> 00:38:16,274
It's just one of these
things we're always gonna do.
955
00:38:16,484 --> 00:38:19,365
So it's also probably promoting
the fact that we are gonna do it.
956
00:38:19,575 --> 00:38:20,294
Have you done it?
957
00:38:20,444 --> 00:38:20,835
You know?
958
00:38:20,835 --> 00:38:23,924
So that's probably a good way Get
out this podcast today is Yes.
959
00:38:23,924 --> 00:38:24,855
It's something I'm thinking about.
960
00:38:25,035 --> 00:38:25,995
I'm thinking about have you done it?
961
00:38:25,995 --> 00:38:27,044
So yeah.
962
00:38:27,075 --> 00:38:29,475
So that's what taught me
just by Yasmina saying that.
963
00:38:29,565 --> 00:38:30,075
So, yeah.
964
00:38:30,075 --> 00:38:30,765
Amazing.
965
00:38:31,510 --> 00:38:33,250
Yeah, it just shows you, but you
don't have to wait till you die.
966
00:38:33,250 --> 00:38:36,220
You can give a kidney now there's
14,000 Australians wait on dialysis.
967
00:38:36,220 --> 00:38:40,120
So yeah, we need more good Australians
just out there helping other Australians.
968
00:38:40,720 --> 00:38:44,770
And tell me with, given the fact that
you've gone through that, that process
969
00:38:44,770 --> 00:38:46,750
and you've weighed it up in your own.
970
00:38:47,655 --> 00:38:50,295
Head about what you had to go
through and what you were facing
971
00:38:50,295 --> 00:38:53,295
because it is still major surgery
that you had to go through yourself.
972
00:38:53,685 --> 00:38:57,165
What would you say to someone
who has come out the other side
973
00:38:57,165 --> 00:38:58,155
and then seen the difference
974
00:38:58,155 --> 00:38:59,488
that it's made with Krishy?
975
00:38:59,488 --> 00:39:00,555
What would you say
976
00:39:00,555 --> 00:39:04,155
to people who might be a little bit
afraid, but do wanna actually help someone
977
00:39:04,155 --> 00:39:06,615
who might be near them that's suffering?
978
00:39:07,060 --> 00:39:07,815
Well, you know what?
979
00:39:08,025 --> 00:39:11,745
Probably the team that the children's work
specifically with their child, and whether
980
00:39:11,745 --> 00:39:16,035
it's an adult at the world, Melbourne
or Austin, they have a team that are so.
981
00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:21,300
So kind and so caring and take you through
all the whole process at the Austin and
982
00:39:21,300 --> 00:39:22,530
they really look after their donors.
983
00:39:22,530 --> 00:39:25,950
That's one thing I realized and they said,
I'm worried, yeah, we get the room here.
984
00:39:25,950 --> 00:39:28,170
I said, oh, I don't wanna have a room
my own just as long enough with a
985
00:39:28,170 --> 00:39:29,820
fellow, but give it the old people.
986
00:39:29,820 --> 00:39:32,820
So I'm worried we will, but we always
look after our donors and whenever
987
00:39:32,820 --> 00:39:34,830
you're unwell or whatever, you
always have a priority 'cause they
988
00:39:34,860 --> 00:39:36,150
have such respect for the donors.
989
00:39:36,150 --> 00:39:36,210
So.
990
00:39:36,805 --> 00:39:40,585
All the journey through from the
specialist to the test, to every,
991
00:39:40,585 --> 00:39:43,075
once they know you're a donor, you've
gotta, because they put you on a
992
00:39:43,075 --> 00:39:45,565
priority list for all the scans because
they need to get you done quickly.
993
00:39:45,955 --> 00:39:48,924
'cause you've got a sick person
waiting for you everywhere you go.
994
00:39:48,924 --> 00:39:52,105
People treat with such kindness and
goodness and they're just so grateful
995
00:39:52,105 --> 00:39:53,245
and they go, oh wow, you're a donor.
996
00:39:53,245 --> 00:39:53,875
They still have that.
997
00:39:53,875 --> 00:39:57,050
Even though they see them, they get a.
Oh, I see on your paper you were diving.
998
00:39:57,050 --> 00:39:57,710
Oh, well done.
999
00:39:58,160 --> 00:39:58,970
How'd you get into that?
1000
00:39:58,970 --> 00:40:00,530
So even hospital staff ask you that.
1001
00:40:00,530 --> 00:40:01,640
So yeah, I don't know.
1002
00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:02,990
You're supported so beautifully.
1003
00:40:02,990 --> 00:40:06,200
And even after you get outta
hospital, the team look after
1004
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:07,160
you for the rest of your life.
1005
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:09,710
Like you see them every year or
every six months, you hear from them.
1006
00:40:09,710 --> 00:40:11,750
So the donors have really looked after.
1007
00:40:11,750 --> 00:40:14,450
If you ever got unwell and you
needed a donor, you'd be on
1008
00:40:14,450 --> 00:40:15,440
the top of the list as well.
1009
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:18,410
So donors are absolutely treated like.
1010
00:40:18,870 --> 00:40:21,660
The gold, the gold platter,
basically in a beautiful way as well.
1011
00:40:21,900 --> 00:40:24,450
There's only one funny thing that
happened to me once was because it's
1012
00:40:24,450 --> 00:40:26,970
during COVID, some of the appointments
I couldn't go in for, so you had
1013
00:40:26,970 --> 00:40:28,320
to also have a mental health check.
1014
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:32,160
So there was this psychologist or
psychiatrist, I think she was a registrar
1015
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:36,150
at the Austin and, and so I knew I
had this appointment, so I was quickly
1016
00:40:36,150 --> 00:40:37,495
cooked in and I came out here and I went.
1017
00:40:37,935 --> 00:40:38,475
On the zoom.
1018
00:40:38,475 --> 00:40:40,515
And so I had something on
the stove as well, right?
1019
00:40:40,515 --> 00:40:43,424
So I do this questionnaire and
she's asking me these questions
1020
00:40:43,484 --> 00:40:46,274
and I have to laugh sometimes
'cause my father's an Irishman.
1021
00:40:46,274 --> 00:40:48,375
I went to school and I, so
I'm a very fast talker, right?
1022
00:40:48,375 --> 00:40:51,435
So in the middle of these questions,
she's asking me about questions.
1023
00:40:51,435 --> 00:40:54,045
She says, Moira, I just
need to ask you a question.
1024
00:40:54,045 --> 00:40:54,495
I says, yeah, yeah.
1025
00:40:54,495 --> 00:40:54,765
What's that?
1026
00:40:54,765 --> 00:40:56,265
I do you like shopping?
1027
00:40:57,450 --> 00:40:59,310
I said, do I like, what
do I like shopping?
1028
00:40:59,310 --> 00:41:01,200
I says, um, well actually tell the truth.
1029
00:41:01,230 --> 00:41:02,370
No, I can't stand shopping.
1030
00:41:02,430 --> 00:41:03,150
It does my heady.
1031
00:41:03,150 --> 00:41:05,370
I said, I can't understand why people
wanna browse and look at things.
1032
00:41:05,370 --> 00:41:06,810
It would, I don't have
people have the time.
1033
00:41:06,810 --> 00:41:07,800
I says, um, I thought, no.
1034
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:08,730
A stupid question.
1035
00:41:08,730 --> 00:41:10,050
I says, back, back up a bit.
1036
00:41:10,050 --> 00:41:12,660
Now do you ask me the question for,
we're talking about donation of
1037
00:41:12,660 --> 00:41:14,430
kidney here, if I'm okay with this.
1038
00:41:15,225 --> 00:41:15,915
Oh no, Moira.
1039
00:41:15,915 --> 00:41:18,404
I'm just trying to work out if
you are bipolar or something.
1040
00:41:18,435 --> 00:41:20,234
'cause you talk very fast and fast.
1041
00:41:20,234 --> 00:41:22,754
People often, are they
bipolar or schizophrenia else?
1042
00:41:22,754 --> 00:41:24,194
I says, are you for real?
1043
00:41:24,194 --> 00:41:25,995
So if I was, do you think I
was gonna tell you anyway?
1044
00:41:26,895 --> 00:41:29,654
There's always some funny things that
come out during this journey, you know?
1045
00:41:29,654 --> 00:41:30,645
So, oh, that's funny.
1046
00:41:30,645 --> 00:41:30,854
I told the.
1047
00:41:31,575 --> 00:41:31,634
Yeah.
1048
00:41:32,685 --> 00:41:36,375
So don't like shopping and don't talk
too fast, or you have a, I had to
1049
00:41:36,375 --> 00:41:37,424
laugh for the team of the children.
1050
00:41:37,424 --> 00:41:38,294
They all knew me for years.
1051
00:41:38,294 --> 00:41:38,895
They were laughing.
1052
00:41:38,895 --> 00:41:40,995
I says, well, they must
have got you on a slowdown.
1053
00:41:40,995 --> 00:41:42,134
I says, yeah, I had something on the oven.
1054
00:41:42,134 --> 00:41:44,714
So I was this preoccupied equipment.
1055
00:41:44,924 --> 00:41:48,734
Yeah, so, so they cover every base,
you know, they tick all the boxes.
1056
00:41:48,734 --> 00:41:49,694
So, yeah.
1057
00:41:49,725 --> 00:41:51,194
So I passed the mental
health check Anyway.
1058
00:41:51,254 --> 00:41:52,634
That's always good to know.
1059
00:41:53,595 --> 00:41:56,475
And tell me more, like, you've gotta
have a sense of humor with all this.
1060
00:41:56,475 --> 00:41:57,944
You can't take it all too serious.
1061
00:41:58,470 --> 00:42:03,299
You do, and I think with everything that
you have witnessed in your life and the
1062
00:42:03,660 --> 00:42:10,529
areas that you work in have always had
some element of crisis or trauma or unrest
1063
00:42:10,589 --> 00:42:15,209
in the spaces that you've been, what
has that taught you about life itself?
1064
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:17,280
Probably how precious it is.
1065
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:20,910
Like I lived in Romania for about a
year and a half, nearly two years.
1066
00:42:20,910 --> 00:42:24,690
I was in charge of an Irish
organization for kids with aids, and
1067
00:42:24,690 --> 00:42:28,350
we lost, you know, over 20 something
children and they were died in threes
1068
00:42:28,350 --> 00:42:30,150
and they died at different times.
1069
00:42:30,150 --> 00:42:34,260
And yeah, you just never realize the
world could sometimes be so cruel and.
1070
00:42:34,580 --> 00:42:36,710
How can little children, you know,
little children are not meant to
1071
00:42:36,710 --> 00:42:39,620
suffer Catherine, and sometimes
I felt that the world, they
1072
00:42:39,620 --> 00:42:40,820
know what's going on over here.
1073
00:42:40,820 --> 00:42:42,980
These little kids are just
as precious as children with
1074
00:42:42,980 --> 00:42:44,210
Australian passports, you know?
1075
00:42:44,210 --> 00:42:46,970
So you just realize how precious life is.
1076
00:42:46,970 --> 00:42:49,700
If you have an opportunity to
fix a little kid up, that's
1077
00:42:49,700 --> 00:42:50,900
one little child you've saved.
1078
00:42:51,170 --> 00:42:53,810
I can't imagine all these doctors,
especially these surgeons and
1079
00:42:53,810 --> 00:42:57,165
doctors who must line a soft
pillow at night knowing that.
1080
00:42:57,615 --> 00:43:00,255
They go to home at night thinking
they've made someone well and
1081
00:43:00,255 --> 00:43:01,275
they've saved someone's life.
1082
00:43:01,275 --> 00:43:03,134
And so don't you wanna be a part of that?
1083
00:43:03,134 --> 00:43:05,685
Like something really good like that,
that you really made a difference.
1084
00:43:05,685 --> 00:43:08,295
So, I mean, don't want anybody be a
part of something good that really
1085
00:43:08,295 --> 00:43:09,585
makes a different in people's lives.
1086
00:43:09,585 --> 00:43:13,245
And I mean, they do this every day just
to get a taste of this for a couple of
1087
00:43:13,245 --> 00:43:15,075
weeks in your whole life or once a year.
1088
00:43:15,075 --> 00:43:17,174
I mean, don't you order wanna
be part of something good?
1089
00:43:17,174 --> 00:43:17,505
You know?
1090
00:43:17,505 --> 00:43:20,895
So you can't help but when you
get a kid fixed and you think, oh,
1091
00:43:20,895 --> 00:43:23,775
Charles, and you hear another child,
of course you wanna help them.
1092
00:43:23,775 --> 00:43:25,330
And I think as humans, we all.
1093
00:43:25,835 --> 00:43:28,924
Empathetic and we all good people,
we all wanna help others and we wanna
1094
00:43:28,924 --> 00:43:31,325
have a chance to help others and
sometimes we just don't know how.
1095
00:43:31,745 --> 00:43:34,985
So yeah, I always remember this great
surgeon at the World Children's.
1096
00:43:35,045 --> 00:43:37,535
He was run out of a function one
night and I saw him, I ran after
1097
00:43:37,535 --> 00:43:40,025
him and I just said, oh listen,
he's a heart surgeon at the kids.
1098
00:43:40,025 --> 00:43:41,915
And I said, listen, thank you
so much for coming tonight.
1099
00:43:41,915 --> 00:43:43,085
I can't believe you found the time.
1100
00:43:43,654 --> 00:43:44,555
He goes, oh, no problems.
1101
00:43:44,645 --> 00:43:47,495
I said to him that night, I said, you
must lay on a soft pillar every night for
1102
00:43:47,495 --> 00:43:48,815
all those little children who operate.
1103
00:43:48,815 --> 00:43:51,215
You've done like 30 of
my kids hard operations.
1104
00:43:51,215 --> 00:43:52,656
I, you know, you must just.
1105
00:43:53,145 --> 00:43:54,285
Be the happiest man on earth.
1106
00:43:54,285 --> 00:43:58,335
He says, Moira, he said, always remember,
I, I live by this motto, Catherine.
1107
00:43:58,335 --> 00:44:02,110
Always remember one child is still one
life and rather look at the big numbers.
1108
00:44:03,225 --> 00:44:05,565
So try that Life in front
of you is so important.
1109
00:44:05,565 --> 00:44:10,245
So whether you're a donor for an adult or
a child or whatever, it's still one life.
1110
00:44:10,245 --> 00:44:15,134
So don't underestimate the enormity of
that and don't look at the big numbers.
1111
00:44:15,134 --> 00:44:18,315
Just look what's in front of you,
how precious life is, and you just
1112
00:44:18,315 --> 00:44:21,105
wanna be around something that's
good and, and warm and fuzzy, and.
1113
00:44:21,725 --> 00:44:22,445
Full of goodness.
1114
00:44:22,445 --> 00:44:24,485
It's only good things can be
around something when you're
1115
00:44:24,605 --> 00:44:25,835
helping someone else like this.
1116
00:44:25,835 --> 00:44:29,135
So yeah, I look at them and I just,
I suppose in life, Catherine, we
1117
00:44:29,135 --> 00:44:31,745
always see the good in others before
we see the good in ourselves as well.
1118
00:44:31,745 --> 00:44:34,655
But we all wanna be, know that
we are good people, but we've
1119
00:44:34,655 --> 00:44:37,565
also good for others, you know,
and create goodness in the world.
1120
00:44:37,565 --> 00:44:37,835
You know,
1121
00:44:38,345 --> 00:44:40,325
it's interesting that
you say that because.
1122
00:44:40,965 --> 00:44:44,355
The people that you're talking about
are skilled professionals and, and
1123
00:44:44,355 --> 00:44:49,785
they are doing their role, but you've
gone a little bit beyond that, haven't
1124
00:44:49,785 --> 00:44:55,335
you, Moira, with actually donating
your own kidney to save someone's life?
1125
00:44:55,965 --> 00:44:57,285
Not everyone can do that.
1126
00:44:58,529 --> 00:45:01,140
See, I don't think, I don't
really think they're like that.
1127
00:45:01,140 --> 00:45:03,360
I just think it was, wasn't even
a second thought in my head.
1128
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:05,670
There's not a mother and a
father out there that probably
1129
00:45:05,670 --> 00:45:06,779
wouldn't think twice about it.
1130
00:45:07,410 --> 00:45:10,140
It's funny 'cause my dad's an Irish man
and I said to dad one day because he says,
1131
00:45:10,140 --> 00:45:11,250
oh, I'm worried I know what you're doing.
1132
00:45:11,250 --> 00:45:12,690
You know, you, you know,
you sure you're doing this?
1133
00:45:12,690 --> 00:45:14,310
I said, dad, put it this way.
1134
00:45:14,339 --> 00:45:16,904
'cause my dad's an Irishman, so you've
gotta appreciate the, the sense of humor.
1135
00:45:17,490 --> 00:45:20,549
I said, dad, if I need a kidney, for
God's sake, I know you gimme a kidney.
1136
00:45:20,759 --> 00:45:22,170
I bloody would not give you one more.
1137
00:45:22,770 --> 00:45:23,279
He says.
1138
00:45:23,650 --> 00:45:26,350
I'm sure we probably would, but he
was just wanting, get my reaction.
1139
00:45:26,350 --> 00:45:28,450
But you gotta have a sense of
humor because even through the
1140
00:45:28,450 --> 00:45:29,770
journey, there's ups and downs.
1141
00:45:29,770 --> 00:45:30,370
But for
1142
00:45:30,370 --> 00:45:32,050
the terrible times at
Krishy, there'd been lots
1143
00:45:32,050 --> 00:45:32,860
of fun as well.
1144
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:36,335
And even during the journey with the
doctors, the, the doctors, you, your
1145
00:45:36,335 --> 00:45:39,880
bears, the nurses, there's jokes and
there's talks and you know, there's
1146
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:41,650
miracles and there's, there's all that.
1147
00:45:41,650 --> 00:45:41,651
There's.
1148
00:45:42,285 --> 00:45:46,095
Highs and those often say these
buildings of hospitals are wonderful
1149
00:45:46,125 --> 00:45:49,605
structures of, of miracles,
performing those doors every day.
1150
00:45:49,605 --> 00:45:51,075
But there is also great sadness.
1151
00:45:51,525 --> 00:45:55,095
It's like when, I suppose when you're
a deceased donor, you look in one
1152
00:45:55,095 --> 00:45:58,395
room, it's full of joy that someone's
got this wonderful hope, and yet
1153
00:45:58,395 --> 00:45:59,625
there's so sadness somewhere else.
1154
00:45:59,625 --> 00:46:04,335
So yeah, those buildings of hope have
got lots of incredible moments of
1155
00:46:04,335 --> 00:46:05,895
people's highs and lows in life that.
1156
00:46:06,330 --> 00:46:08,700
Sometimes we're a part of, or
sometimes we're outside, we
1157
00:46:08,700 --> 00:46:12,330
don't know, but everyone's got
a journey and mine was this one.
1158
00:46:12,330 --> 00:46:13,319
Mine was a no brainer.
1159
00:46:13,439 --> 00:46:15,361
It was something I was so excited to do.
1160
00:46:16,245 --> 00:46:19,635
And when we, we are
talking there about hope.
1161
00:46:20,355 --> 00:46:24,705
Can we talk a little bit about a
project that we both just chatted about
1162
00:46:24,705 --> 00:46:28,725
before we came on air that involves
the architect from the Royal Botanic
1163
00:46:28,725 --> 00:46:32,295
Gardens Victoria, Andrew Laidlaw,
and that's the piece guard Mayor.
1164
00:46:33,190 --> 00:46:33,520
Yes.
1165
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:34,720
It's a global peace.
1166
00:46:34,720 --> 00:46:35,230
That's right.
1167
00:46:35,410 --> 00:46:35,800
Yeah.
1168
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:40,180
So Andrews came out to Gaza me a couple
of times because Build Children's Garden.
1169
00:46:40,210 --> 00:46:42,130
'cause I bought a lot of kids
out from Gaza for surgery as
1170
00:46:42,130 --> 00:46:43,420
well, from all over the world.
1171
00:46:43,420 --> 00:46:46,900
And having said that, lots of kids
also get operated in Israel as well.
1172
00:46:46,900 --> 00:46:48,940
During that time there was some
kids that needed to come to us
1173
00:46:48,940 --> 00:46:50,680
and, and Andrew came out there.
1174
00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:53,560
I just told, when I came back from
Gaza, one of my trips, I was given
1175
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:56,140
the contact with Andrew and he's,
he's a bit out there as well.
1176
00:46:56,140 --> 00:47:00,880
So he's in for a bit of an adventure and
something different and the Palestinian.
1177
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:03,810
Government at the time had given
me land, which is unheard of.
1178
00:47:03,810 --> 00:47:04,470
It's a long story.
1179
00:47:04,470 --> 00:47:05,250
I won't go in today.
1180
00:47:05,250 --> 00:47:07,590
And because I told them I'd build
them a garden, I didn't think
1181
00:47:07,590 --> 00:47:08,580
it was gonna be that difficult.
1182
00:47:08,580 --> 00:47:09,000
I'm sure.
1183
00:47:09,674 --> 00:47:12,555
People in Australia could build us
a gardening Gaza, and if you give
1184
00:47:12,555 --> 00:47:14,745
us land, I'm sure the Australian
people would do that for you.
1185
00:47:14,745 --> 00:47:17,774
So anyway, about six months later,
I got this titled Land in My
1186
00:47:17,774 --> 00:47:19,935
Name and Make a long story short.
1187
00:47:19,935 --> 00:47:21,254
And I thought, oh God,
this is getting a bit real.
1188
00:47:21,884 --> 00:47:23,145
They're gonna come back with land.
1189
00:47:23,654 --> 00:47:27,015
And Andrew came on, he's been on few,
few trips with me, and yeah, we were.
1190
00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:30,140
After so many years, we finally
had the tender out and two weeks
1191
00:47:30,140 --> 00:47:32,000
before this particular war started.
1192
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:35,690
Um, yeah, we just didn't go ahead, but
Andrew's gone ahead with the foundation.
1193
00:47:35,690 --> 00:47:37,880
I've sort of been busy these
days, but I'm just the patron.
1194
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:41,600
But there's gardens being built all over
vulnerable communities here in Melbourne
1195
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:45,380
and in Victoria that Andrews spearheaded
with the Global Gardens of Peace.
1196
00:47:45,770 --> 00:47:48,170
They have their meetings
at, at the um, gardens.
1197
00:47:48,170 --> 00:47:48,740
And so that's.
1198
00:47:50,240 --> 00:47:53,509
The, the sea that came outta Gaza,
all these beautiful gardens here in
1199
00:47:53,509 --> 00:47:55,459
Melbourne, in vulnerable communities.
1200
00:47:55,459 --> 00:47:57,410
So that's still continuing,
but what a small world.
1201
00:47:57,410 --> 00:48:00,259
You worked with Andrew there and we just
had to discussed the same person we knew.
1202
00:48:00,620 --> 00:48:03,470
A mutual, wonderful, wonderful,
wonderful human being.
1203
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:05,000
Yeah, he's very special.
1204
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:08,029
He's got a great sense of humor and
I always saw Elli in a different
1205
00:48:08,029 --> 00:48:12,229
way, in a constructive size, and I
just saw my working humanitarian.
1206
00:48:12,544 --> 00:48:13,024
Bit different.
1207
00:48:13,024 --> 00:48:16,865
When I met Andrew, I just saw the
same values as humanitarian and
1208
00:48:16,865 --> 00:48:20,075
spiritualizing Andrew, and I just
thought, wow, artists, people are
1209
00:48:20,075 --> 00:48:22,504
very similar to humanitarian people.
1210
00:48:22,865 --> 00:48:26,645
And I had never put that across, never
seen that until I met Andrew, that I
1211
00:48:26,645 --> 00:48:30,544
realized the spiritual connection that
artists people have with humanitarians,
1212
00:48:31,024 --> 00:48:32,200
because he's a definitely a.
1213
00:48:32,930 --> 00:48:33,860
Very artistic.
1214
00:48:34,250 --> 00:48:34,520
Yeah.
1215
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:38,630
I, I don't quite know how Andrew's brain
works, but he's got this incredible gift
1216
00:48:38,630 --> 00:48:42,440
to be able to design and picture something
in, in these unique places and what he
1217
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:44,000
is put together in different places now.
1218
00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:47,540
But he is made me realize the
connection that humanitarians have,
1219
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:51,140
that these artists people have
on a real humanitarian level to
1220
00:48:51,140 --> 00:48:52,640
another level that was phenomenal.
1221
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:56,060
So to see how he sees things
and how it's gonna help people.
1222
00:48:56,970 --> 00:48:58,320
Really look at the core of people.
1223
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,260
I was, yeah, he taught me a
lot, Andrew, just, just by
1224
00:49:01,260 --> 00:49:02,700
listening and, and observing him.
1225
00:49:02,700 --> 00:49:06,135
So yeah, humanitarian and artist
people have lot, lot, lot,
1226
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:07,260
lots of gel with each other.
1227
00:49:07,260 --> 00:49:08,340
We are very similar people.
1228
00:49:08,340 --> 00:49:10,710
So yeah, he taught me a lot about that.
1229
00:49:10,710 --> 00:49:12,780
So that will still happen
one day, Catherine.
1230
00:49:12,780 --> 00:49:15,390
But the moment, global Garden of
Peace, he's very passionate about
1231
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:18,895
building these beautiful green spaces
in vulnerable community in Melbourne.
1232
00:49:18,930 --> 00:49:20,100
So yeah.
1233
00:49:20,100 --> 00:49:21,120
So what a small world
1234
00:49:21,690 --> 00:49:22,230
it is.
1235
00:49:22,350 --> 00:49:25,890
And tell me what do you think
the connection is and, and.
1236
00:49:26,165 --> 00:49:31,325
In relation to spirituality and
where does your spirituality sit now
1237
00:49:31,325 --> 00:49:32,975
given everything that you've seen?
1238
00:49:33,035 --> 00:49:34,685
Do you still have a strong faith?
1239
00:49:34,685 --> 00:49:36,275
Is it of a particular religion?
1240
00:49:36,605 --> 00:49:38,345
How has it evolved over time?
1241
00:49:39,390 --> 00:49:43,170
Well, I suppose one thing I've also
learned as I've gone along my way,
1242
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:47,070
'cause I've lived in a lot of countries
overseas for like 15 years in different
1243
00:49:47,130 --> 00:49:50,550
religions and, and I think all
religion represents something good.
1244
00:49:50,940 --> 00:49:54,780
And I think if all of us as the
followers of religion, if we all
1245
00:49:54,780 --> 00:49:56,550
listen to our leaders of faith.
1246
00:49:56,984 --> 00:50:00,765
They all practice the same, exactly
the same sermons, but sometimes
1247
00:50:00,765 --> 00:50:02,234
we get misconstrued, you know?
1248
00:50:02,654 --> 00:50:05,384
But they all talk about
kindness and empathy and giving
1249
00:50:05,384 --> 00:50:07,455
and charity and forgiveness.
1250
00:50:07,515 --> 00:50:09,734
Everyone talks about that doesn't
matter what religion you are,
1251
00:50:10,125 --> 00:50:13,365
but we always, it's the followers
who sometimes misinterpret that.
1252
00:50:13,755 --> 00:50:17,265
I'm a conventional old Catholic nic
coming from a Catholic traditional
1253
00:50:17,265 --> 00:50:20,475
family, but my kids come from different
religions and an Irish family.
1254
00:50:20,850 --> 00:50:21,720
Exactly.
1255
00:50:22,529 --> 00:50:26,160
Then I have volunteers and people I've
met on my journey who are spiritual
1256
00:50:26,160 --> 00:50:27,480
by going to a park and a beach.
1257
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:31,141
And so sometimes we all connect
in our own way, so it may not be.
1258
00:50:31,860 --> 00:50:35,460
Something like me, that's a
very, a very Catholic sort of
1259
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:38,700
background, but spirituality
can be shared in different ways.
1260
00:50:38,700 --> 00:50:40,740
So I respect and sort of accept them all.
1261
00:50:40,740 --> 00:50:42,720
And look, you never know we duck up there.
1262
00:50:42,720 --> 00:50:44,700
It could be Jehovah, it could
be my hubba, could be Lord,
1263
00:50:44,790 --> 00:50:46,020
who knows when we get upstairs.
1264
00:50:46,470 --> 00:50:48,210
But we all, as long as
we've had a good life.
1265
00:50:48,674 --> 00:50:51,915
And we remember to do
kind to others, you know?
1266
00:50:51,915 --> 00:50:54,735
And don't underestimate the good
that you can do for others too.
1267
00:50:54,735 --> 00:50:55,904
It's not about the world here.
1268
00:50:55,904 --> 00:50:57,765
We live in that we just
do things for ourself.
1269
00:50:57,765 --> 00:50:58,695
We have a bigger community.
1270
00:50:58,695 --> 00:51:00,674
We are all born in this
world right now forever.
1271
00:51:00,674 --> 00:51:03,465
Like one of the reasons I went to Bosnia
was, look, I wasn't around for World
1272
00:51:03,465 --> 00:51:05,415
War II and I can't look at world movies.
1273
00:51:05,415 --> 00:51:07,215
I just couldn't because
I felt so frustrated.
1274
00:51:07,665 --> 00:51:10,695
But I know in years to come, you
know, kids will go back and say, well,
1275
00:51:10,695 --> 00:51:12,075
what did you do in the Bosnian war?
1276
00:51:12,075 --> 00:51:13,154
What did you do at the Gaza War?
1277
00:51:13,154 --> 00:51:14,490
What did you do in the World War ii?
1278
00:51:14,565 --> 00:51:17,145
I said, well, I wasn't here for World War
ii, but I was here for the Bosnian War.
1279
00:51:17,145 --> 00:51:17,835
I was alive.
1280
00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:19,220
I could do something.
1281
00:51:19,220 --> 00:51:21,590
Not everyone has to pull their
sleeves up and go to Bosnia, but
1282
00:51:21,980 --> 00:51:24,980
there's things you can do to support
the communities here in Melbourne
1283
00:51:24,980 --> 00:51:27,500
and the Ukraines and the the people.
1284
00:51:27,500 --> 00:51:30,290
Just because we're Australian doesn't
mean these things are not our problems.
1285
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:32,390
And it's a funny world we live in.
1286
00:51:32,450 --> 00:51:34,880
It depends on what passport you
own is whether you live or die.
1287
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:38,090
So sometimes we complain about our
governments and our countries, but the
1288
00:51:38,150 --> 00:51:40,910
three most important things in your
life besides your health and family are
1289
00:51:40,910 --> 00:51:42,440
your passport or your Medicare card.
1290
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:44,210
And people still complain about that.
1291
00:51:45,115 --> 00:51:48,174
So until you go to places where
unfortunately the children I meet,
1292
00:51:48,685 --> 00:51:52,254
they just own the wrong passport and
they're just not, they're not entitled
1293
00:51:52,254 --> 00:51:55,615
to the same healthcare as children
Australia, which is, to me, I never knew
1294
00:51:55,615 --> 00:51:56,964
that existed until I lived overseas.
1295
00:51:56,964 --> 00:52:00,955
So that's probably what drives me a
lot, Catherine, you know, is rather than
1296
00:52:00,955 --> 00:52:02,154
complain about it, do something about it.
1297
00:52:03,565 --> 00:52:04,555
And looking forward.
1298
00:52:04,944 --> 00:52:07,435
Moira, what do you think
that the next five, 10 years
1299
00:52:07,435 --> 00:52:08,785
will, will look like for you?
1300
00:52:08,785 --> 00:52:10,585
What projects are you
currently working on?
1301
00:52:11,190 --> 00:52:15,210
Well, we've got some other kids arriving
from overseas pretty soon and I'd like
1302
00:52:15,210 --> 00:52:18,990
to get another house in Melbourne and we
do the foundation, are hoping to get some
1303
00:52:18,990 --> 00:52:22,530
land not far from Melbourne, closer to the
city where we're gonna put some cottages
1304
00:52:22,530 --> 00:52:26,250
on for carers and for women at risk.
1305
00:52:26,250 --> 00:52:28,920
'cause we also have our home here in
Melbourne and we've got another one set
1306
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:30,600
up now is also apart from the sick kids.
1307
00:52:30,600 --> 00:52:33,840
We also have women who either pregnant,
who have children who are homeless for
1308
00:52:33,840 --> 00:52:35,700
some reason, and there goes obvious.
1309
00:52:35,700 --> 00:52:37,110
They've got their drug
and alcohol problems.
1310
00:52:37,110 --> 00:52:38,130
We move them in here as well.
1311
00:52:38,130 --> 00:52:40,710
So we'd like to set up
a, a sort of a place.
1312
00:52:40,710 --> 00:52:42,420
So that, not a refuge but a home for them.
1313
00:52:42,720 --> 00:52:46,410
We take sort of women on long term, so lot
of our women come through the Sisters of
1314
00:52:46,410 --> 00:52:50,460
Mother there, here in Fitzroy 'cause they
know that, that he's sorted in our home.
1315
00:52:50,460 --> 00:52:53,160
But we'd like to set up a
place not far outta Melbourne.
1316
00:52:53,745 --> 00:52:56,595
Where we could have women and families
who just can't afford to go on holidays,
1317
00:52:56,595 --> 00:53:01,185
like carers and single moms and, and
still also offer sort of a sanctuary
1318
00:53:01,185 --> 00:53:04,305
for women who are going through terrible
ordeals apart from our sick kids.
1319
00:53:04,305 --> 00:53:06,765
So that's something we wanna grow
and have a legacy there as well.
1320
00:53:06,765 --> 00:53:07,515
So, yeah.
1321
00:53:07,545 --> 00:53:09,765
So there's always something
beautiful to be done in this
1322
00:53:09,765 --> 00:53:11,055
beautiful world of ours, you know?
1323
00:53:11,715 --> 00:53:12,975
And what does that word
1324
00:53:12,975 --> 00:53:14,085
legacy mean to you?
1325
00:53:14,085 --> 00:53:14,535
Moira,
1326
00:53:15,045 --> 00:53:15,555
I suppose.
1327
00:53:16,335 --> 00:53:19,005
You wanna be able to look back
and, and think that you did
1328
00:53:19,005 --> 00:53:20,115
something good in your life.
1329
00:53:20,175 --> 00:53:23,505
And maybe like, look, I look at
Mother Theresa, she's not with us
1330
00:53:23,505 --> 00:53:25,635
now, but her legacy lives on in me.
1331
00:53:25,635 --> 00:53:29,805
When people talk about, I tell her
funny stories and the, the crack
1332
00:53:29,805 --> 00:53:31,515
mother Theresa had, she was great fun.
1333
00:53:31,515 --> 00:53:35,955
So that's a legacy that's sometimes
not all necessarily holy and thou,
1334
00:53:35,955 --> 00:53:37,935
it's, she was a fun woman from Albany.
1335
00:53:37,935 --> 00:53:38,925
She had a great sense of humor.
1336
00:53:39,255 --> 00:53:40,605
And look what she's done to the world.
1337
00:53:40,725 --> 00:53:42,375
There's people they still
talk about to the day.
1338
00:53:43,370 --> 00:53:46,575
To, to our own grandparents and the
next grandparents don't survive.
1339
00:53:46,575 --> 00:53:51,675
So I look at her legacy and I think no
one can hit that high, but to be able to
1340
00:53:51,675 --> 00:53:55,035
know that you've been a good person and
you've made a difference in the world and
1341
00:53:55,154 --> 00:53:57,015
there's some life has come from your life.
1342
00:53:57,015 --> 00:54:01,335
So like I'd love Catherine is to come,
is to go around and travel some of the
1343
00:54:01,335 --> 00:54:05,535
countries in the world and find some of
the kids I took to America or to Ireland
1344
00:54:05,535 --> 00:54:09,915
or here and see not how they are, but
the life that's come from that life.
1345
00:54:10,755 --> 00:54:13,695
Like, you know, often thinking Bosnia,
the first two boys I brought to Australia,
1346
00:54:14,115 --> 00:54:17,925
they may not remember Moira Kelly,
and they may not remember Melbourne,
1347
00:54:17,925 --> 00:54:20,340
but they know people in Australia
were there when they needed them.
1348
00:54:21,299 --> 00:54:22,140
That's what life's about.
1349
00:54:22,140 --> 00:54:25,080
It's not about leaving your own
name and moving monuments, but it's
1350
00:54:25,080 --> 00:54:28,259
about knowing that people cared
for them in their darkest hours.
1351
00:54:28,259 --> 00:54:30,330
And just because we're Australian
didn't mean it wasn't our problem.
1352
00:54:30,330 --> 00:54:31,049
It is our problem.
1353
00:54:31,049 --> 00:54:32,399
So they know people.
1354
00:54:32,399 --> 00:54:33,390
They'll talk to their grandparents.
1355
00:54:33,390 --> 00:54:36,660
Oh yeah, those children, you know, we
had people went to Australia, Australian
1356
00:54:36,660 --> 00:54:38,069
people looked after kids in Bosnia.
1357
00:54:38,549 --> 00:54:41,009
I mean, that's a great legacy for
our culture and for our people
1358
00:54:41,009 --> 00:54:42,899
because we are a caring nation.
1359
00:54:42,899 --> 00:54:45,689
So it's not about, it's
not about the Moira Kelly.
1360
00:54:45,689 --> 00:54:48,689
It's about us as a community and
that people did care about them.
1361
00:54:48,930 --> 00:54:50,100
It's how those people felt.
1362
00:54:51,225 --> 00:54:55,095
So, yeah, I think that's what's more
important is that the, the mark you've
1363
00:54:55,095 --> 00:54:58,575
left on the people's lives, you know,
that they, they, they meant something.
1364
00:54:59,325 --> 00:55:02,385
And Moura, I'd have to say that
would make an amazing documentary
1365
00:55:02,385 --> 00:55:03,225
that I'd definitely watch.
1366
00:55:03,795 --> 00:55:03,825
Okay,
1367
00:55:05,145 --> 00:55:05,565
thank you.
1368
00:55:06,194 --> 00:55:10,125
There's a couple of us, a friend
Maria Louis wanna travel when we do
1369
00:55:10,125 --> 00:55:13,004
that, just to find out where they are
and I don't even know where to go.
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I know exactly where to go and find
the life that's come from their life.
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00:55:16,065 --> 00:55:19,725
I think that says a lot about, you know,
that old saying, the doctor said, don't
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00:55:19,725 --> 00:55:21,105
forget one child is still one life.
1373
00:55:21,660 --> 00:55:23,190
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:25,800
And the ripple effect of that would be
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00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:26,580
amazing.
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00:55:26,940 --> 00:55:30,120
And also Catherine, the generations
of people in those communities will
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00:55:30,120 --> 00:55:32,370
always know that Country Australia,
they took some people from here.
1378
00:55:32,790 --> 00:55:34,890
I mean, the goodwill there,
you know, that people care just
1379
00:55:34,890 --> 00:55:35,700
because we're in Australia.
1380
00:55:36,030 --> 00:55:36,300
Wow.
1381
00:55:36,300 --> 00:55:37,350
They took people from here.
1382
00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:38,250
Yeah.
1383
00:55:38,280 --> 00:55:41,010
There's a child years ago
to Australia and got fixed.
1384
00:55:41,010 --> 00:55:43,260
I mean, that's what the
world's about, you know?
1385
00:55:43,695 --> 00:55:47,080
Yeah, breaking down barriers and
really, you know, we are not as big.
1386
00:55:47,080 --> 00:55:48,525
We're not as far away as we are.
1387
00:55:49,155 --> 00:55:49,965
We care about you.
1388
00:55:49,965 --> 00:55:51,075
You know, so yeah.
1389
00:55:51,375 --> 00:55:54,195
Their life is as precious as
well have the wrong passport.
1390
00:55:54,195 --> 00:55:55,485
But your life is precious.
1391
00:55:56,055 --> 00:55:56,265
Yeah.
1392
00:55:56,265 --> 00:55:59,025
We do care and we don't want
any money, want any rewards.
1393
00:55:59,025 --> 00:56:01,635
We don't want payment,
we don't want presence.
1394
00:56:01,845 --> 00:56:03,345
We did it because of
the right thing to do.
1395
00:56:05,055 --> 00:56:05,415
Mm-hmm.
1396
00:56:05,835 --> 00:56:10,395
Laura, I think that is a beautiful
ideology and a version of legacy
1397
00:56:10,395 --> 00:56:11,415
that I'd really like to see.
1398
00:56:12,450 --> 00:56:13,135
Oh, thank you.
1399
00:56:14,025 --> 00:56:14,495
Thank you.
1400
00:56:14,820 --> 00:56:17,910
Yeah, thank you so much for
spending time with us today.
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00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:19,200
Good on you, Catherine.
1402
00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:21,990
You've been a wonderful interviewer too,
by the way, so thanks for having me.
1403
00:56:22,650 --> 00:56:26,430
And I hope you and I today, we could have,
we have, could have performed a miracle.
1404
00:56:26,430 --> 00:56:27,900
There could be a couple of
people there today that says,
1405
00:56:27,900 --> 00:56:28,980
yeah, I wanna be a live donor.
1406
00:56:28,980 --> 00:56:29,280
So
1407
00:56:29,460 --> 00:56:29,670
cheers.
1408
00:56:29,670 --> 00:56:32,895
Hoping, Hey, we'll have the
link in the show notes, people.
1409
00:56:33,060 --> 00:56:36,570
So jump online, check with what
your status is, and if you're
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00:56:36,570 --> 00:56:40,620
not an organ donor and you feel
comfortable to do so, sign up.
1411
00:56:41,775 --> 00:56:44,265
Also just look at Donate Life
for all that sort of information,
1412
00:56:44,265 --> 00:56:47,055
because they're the experts on
this and they live this every day.
1413
00:56:47,055 --> 00:56:51,945
So they get those wonderful phone calls to
tell a family that someone's been saved.
1414
00:56:51,945 --> 00:56:53,055
They also get the hard ones.
1415
00:56:53,055 --> 00:56:56,535
So yeah, that's, they're
pretty magic people in there.
1416
00:56:57,045 --> 00:56:57,465
Yeah.
1417
00:56:58,275 --> 00:56:59,355
Thanks so much, Mara.
1418
00:56:59,745 --> 00:57:00,075
Good on you.
1419
00:57:00,075 --> 00:57:03,195
God bless Catherine, and good luck to
everyone and have a great year, guys.
1420
00:57:03,195 --> 00:57:05,595
And just keep an eye out for
the Donate Life Program and
1421
00:57:05,595 --> 00:57:07,035
just even spread the word.
1422
00:57:07,575 --> 00:57:08,235
Good on you, Catherine.
1423
00:57:08,235 --> 00:57:08,655
Thank you.
1424
00:57:11,520 --> 00:57:14,940
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